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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 688391" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Soooo tired, I think you are making tremendous progress in putting yourself at the top of the list. I know it is very hard to put yourself there, and then to keep yourself there, when you love and care about people. We want so much for our children and families. </p><p></p><p>We can love people without completely giving ourselves over to them and their dysfunction. That is what you are working to figure out, that balance. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think recognizing when we need a break is a very good thing. And a break doesn't have to mean forever. That is where the value of living life one day at a time comes in. There is tremendous power and relief in realizing that "just for today" you can make a decision, and that tomorrow, you hold the power and ability to change your mind if you want to. </p><p></p><p>I never even realized how living this way is so tremendously freeing until I started learning about it, and practicing it via Al-Anon. </p><p></p><p>Just letting my son's calls go to voice mail (seems like a very simple thing, right?) was huge for me. It gave me time and space and the ability to "get myself together" before I responded. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. You are in control here. You have choices. Think about what you need and what brings you peace, joy and serenity. Believe me, the wheels are turning at their house, and time will serve its purpose with them. </p><p></p><p>We're here for you, sooo tired. Warm hugs this morning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 688391, member: 17542"] Soooo tired, I think you are making tremendous progress in putting yourself at the top of the list. I know it is very hard to put yourself there, and then to keep yourself there, when you love and care about people. We want so much for our children and families. We can love people without completely giving ourselves over to them and their dysfunction. That is what you are working to figure out, that balance. I think recognizing when we need a break is a very good thing. And a break doesn't have to mean forever. That is where the value of living life one day at a time comes in. There is tremendous power and relief in realizing that "just for today" you can make a decision, and that tomorrow, you hold the power and ability to change your mind if you want to. I never even realized how living this way is so tremendously freeing until I started learning about it, and practicing it via Al-Anon. Just letting my son's calls go to voice mail (seems like a very simple thing, right?) was huge for me. It gave me time and space and the ability to "get myself together" before I responded. Hang in there. You are in control here. You have choices. Think about what you need and what brings you peace, joy and serenity. Believe me, the wheels are turning at their house, and time will serve its purpose with them. We're here for you, sooo tired. Warm hugs this morning. [/QUOTE]
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