I have a really hard time with sticking to consequences. I took my son's car away and was no longer giving him money because he will not go to school or get a job. He just turned 18 last week. He dropped out of school one year ago and has been in and out of schools ever since. He just got an IEP, so we start a new school on Monday. I'm sure he will quit that one too eventually. He is on Zyprexa, but just started a new medication yesterday (Effexor), because his doctor said he is more depressed than manic. That's because he just happens to only see him when he is in depression! Yesterday he finally got up, showered, and went to the mall with me! YAY!! I thought he'd never come out of it! : ( BUT I ended up letting him take the car to a friend of his and giving him money so they could see a movie! Argh I was just so happy that he wanted to be out and to see someone. My mom says I'm enabling him, but yet, it was my mother that always got my brother out of trouble when he was a teen and enabled the out of him! Now he is a total square, college graduate, owns two business's, a wife and 2.5 kids. She spent all of her money getting him attorneys to keep him out of jail, and she's shocked at how I'm raising my son?????? What's that saying? The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree?? What should I do????? I could hang in there and hope he turns out like my brother, but what if he doesn't and I made the wrong choice???????