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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 759788" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Dear Copa ~ I was able to get online to read your first response but then the internet was so slow here I couldn't respond. As I was walking around yesterday I was thinking about you and what we would be talking about. I was also talking to God, as I often do, and asking him to please help with your son and turn him in a direction or send someone to help him. I do this when I don't know what else to do. I do it to ease my anxiety from not being in control. Through most of my life I thought I was in control. Hard work, lived beneath my means just in case of a financial set back, ran my life with todo lists and kept on top of everything so things wouldn't go wrong. Became the master of how can I do better in both personal and business relationships. Now though I realize there's either a whole lot more God or luck or both involved when things are going in the right direction than any actual control I may have. </p><p></p><p>I know it's very frightening right now with what is happening with your son. But it's really looking like a good thing as you have said. My son was involuntary hospitalized once that I'm sure of and a second time I'm pretty sure of. I know it's strange that I wouldn't know for sure on the second one but I don't exactly trust what comes from the people giving me information because my son annoys them so much I think they embellish things a bit on the negative side and when I hear from my son I don't pry, just let him tell me what he wants to . My son was only in the local hospital for a 72 hour hold and then not only were they willing to let him go they practically dumped him out on the street. Considering the hospital transported your son so far away to another hospital situation it seems they feel confident they have found a long term treatment setting for him. Long term as I have experienced with my son with dual diagnosis rehab has been 30 days and then a sober living situation. In the states by me the sober living people have connections with the rehabs and look for people to bring in. In my son's case he was not involuntarily sent from the hospital to a rehab, it was voluntary with me working with the hospital(s) after he was brought in out of his mind on whatever, not the 72 hour hold times. Considering your son is in a hospital rehab setting I think it's much better than what my son received as treatment during those times. Fingers crossed on all of this. It's most likely not a solution but a nudge in the right direction for sure, no matter what he does with that nudge for the short term. </p><p></p><p></p><p>You will be receiving the hug and the walk (if only in my imagination) every night I get the privilege, by the grace of God, to walk around here and experience the amazing combination of humanity and nature. I stood outside in the darkness tonight. In my bare feet, feeling the dirt, sand and pine needles under my feet as I looked at a tree across the way from me, imagining you, becoming as routed and grounded as that hundred year old tree just as I've seen you become more routed and grounded, able to weather the storms over the last couple of years posting here. It will never be a cake walk, that's for sure, I guess we've figured that bit out by now but I know you are a stronger person as I am these days. It's true there is no substitute for in real life connections but I am sending you as much love and caring over to the left coast as I can muster.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 759788, member: 22840"] Dear Copa ~ I was able to get online to read your first response but then the internet was so slow here I couldn't respond. As I was walking around yesterday I was thinking about you and what we would be talking about. I was also talking to God, as I often do, and asking him to please help with your son and turn him in a direction or send someone to help him. I do this when I don't know what else to do. I do it to ease my anxiety from not being in control. Through most of my life I thought I was in control. Hard work, lived beneath my means just in case of a financial set back, ran my life with todo lists and kept on top of everything so things wouldn't go wrong. Became the master of how can I do better in both personal and business relationships. Now though I realize there's either a whole lot more God or luck or both involved when things are going in the right direction than any actual control I may have. I know it's very frightening right now with what is happening with your son. But it's really looking like a good thing as you have said. My son was involuntary hospitalized once that I'm sure of and a second time I'm pretty sure of. I know it's strange that I wouldn't know for sure on the second one but I don't exactly trust what comes from the people giving me information because my son annoys them so much I think they embellish things a bit on the negative side and when I hear from my son I don't pry, just let him tell me what he wants to . My son was only in the local hospital for a 72 hour hold and then not only were they willing to let him go they practically dumped him out on the street. Considering the hospital transported your son so far away to another hospital situation it seems they feel confident they have found a long term treatment setting for him. Long term as I have experienced with my son with dual diagnosis rehab has been 30 days and then a sober living situation. In the states by me the sober living people have connections with the rehabs and look for people to bring in. In my son's case he was not involuntarily sent from the hospital to a rehab, it was voluntary with me working with the hospital(s) after he was brought in out of his mind on whatever, not the 72 hour hold times. Considering your son is in a hospital rehab setting I think it's much better than what my son received as treatment during those times. Fingers crossed on all of this. It's most likely not a solution but a nudge in the right direction for sure, no matter what he does with that nudge for the short term. You will be receiving the hug and the walk (if only in my imagination) every night I get the privilege, by the grace of God, to walk around here and experience the amazing combination of humanity and nature. I stood outside in the darkness tonight. In my bare feet, feeling the dirt, sand and pine needles under my feet as I looked at a tree across the way from me, imagining you, becoming as routed and grounded as that hundred year old tree just as I've seen you become more routed and grounded, able to weather the storms over the last couple of years posting here. It will never be a cake walk, that's for sure, I guess we've figured that bit out by now but I know you are a stronger person as I am these days. It's true there is no substitute for in real life connections but I am sending you as much love and caring over to the left coast as I can muster. [/QUOTE]
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