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Copa, a continuation on spiraling out of control
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 759827" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Deni</p><p></p><p>Thank you very much. If there would be an Odyssey for mothers in our straits, your post would be it.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for your kindness. I will be reading and re-reading this.</p><p></p><p>The past 24 hours have been very hard. I keep thinking about how alone he is. He has alienated everybody. What would that be like, feel like? I have been alone and lonely. I have felt that I had no family to turn to. I know what that feels like. I would never have thought I would turn my back on my own son.</p><p></p><p>It feels like self-preservation, but it is something different and more. It is a basic human choice, which I think is your main point. That as human beings we have a basic and necessary instinct and even purpose to turn away from the dark side, from extinction, from that which will hurt not only us but which is generically hurtful. Even when it is our family, our children.</p><p></p><p>It's to go against life to permit somebody to be destructive, to enter or stay in a relationship, where you consent to be hurt or mistreated. All of us do it, act meanly or accept meanness, for a time, for a moment, for a year; but the trajectory of life is not to perpetuate this. It is to reject it. Even for mothers.</p><p></p><p>Somehow your post allows me to understand this at a deeper level.</p><p></p><p>My intention now is to go to a place or level inside of me, where I am strong enough to bear what I must, whatever it is. I believe that we are called in life. And the only way I can understand this so as to not be in despair is to see this as a calling of this sort, to find my purpose and the meaning of my life. </p><p></p><p>I will always be grateful to you for this post, and others, Deni.</p><p></p><p>Thank you,</p><p></p><p>Copa</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 759827, member: 18958"] Dear Deni Thank you very much. If there would be an Odyssey for mothers in our straits, your post would be it. Thank you for your kindness. I will be reading and re-reading this. The past 24 hours have been very hard. I keep thinking about how alone he is. He has alienated everybody. What would that be like, feel like? I have been alone and lonely. I have felt that I had no family to turn to. I know what that feels like. I would never have thought I would turn my back on my own son. It feels like self-preservation, but it is something different and more. It is a basic human choice, which I think is your main point. That as human beings we have a basic and necessary instinct and even purpose to turn away from the dark side, from extinction, from that which will hurt not only us but which is generically hurtful. Even when it is our family, our children. It's to go against life to permit somebody to be destructive, to enter or stay in a relationship, where you consent to be hurt or mistreated. All of us do it, act meanly or accept meanness, for a time, for a moment, for a year; but the trajectory of life is not to perpetuate this. It is to reject it. Even for mothers. Somehow your post allows me to understand this at a deeper level. My intention now is to go to a place or level inside of me, where I am strong enough to bear what I must, whatever it is. I believe that we are called in life. And the only way I can understand this so as to not be in despair is to see this as a calling of this sort, to find my purpose and the meaning of my life. I will always be grateful to you for this post, and others, Deni. Thank you, Copa [/QUOTE]
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