As with most of the posts Ive read here, Im posting because I dont know where to turn next. My daughter will be 6 this month. As a baby she was fussy and colicky. When she was around 18 months, she started having fits of explosive anger that we wrote off to the terrible twos. We waited for the terrible twos to end and they never have theyve progressively gotten worse. I have a friend that used to tell me I had let her get away with too much. Everyone has advice and an opinion, right? Now she has admitted that she gets that this is just the way daughter is. Mornings are hell around here. When husband is home on his day off and can devote all his time to getting her going things go so much better. When its just me and her, she just cant seem to hear me. Ill ask her to get dressed, brush her teeth or get her shoes on and Ill find her singing, playing or just staring. I get frustrated and yell which just makes it worse. If something sets her off (we call it the switch click!) then shes grunting, screaming, hitting and clawing at me. If shes doing something she has to finish it before even considering what weve asked. If you remove whatever it was click! If I put her in her room, she pounds on the door and the walls. husband and I cant have a conversation because shes interrupting. Weve told her its not polite to interrupt and that if something is very important she might say excuse me. Shell put up her hand and then tell us something that is so not in the realm of important. I took her shopping for birthday presents after school today and talked to her about behavior before we left. I agreed that she could push the cart like a big girl. Soon she was not watching and running it into people, blocking the aisle and zooming it up and down. I used to be able to drag her screaming out of a store, but I cant any longer. Shes taller than most of her peers and weighs over 70 lbs. If she doesnt want to go somewhere, I cant make her any longer. It makes the dentist and blood tests fun. Now, the positive. Shes so smart. Shes reading chapter books in grade 1 and her teacher says that when she reads out loud it sounds like shes been reading for years. Academically, shes good. She gets completely distracted in class and Im not sure the current teacher knows how to handle it. Shes kept her behind from activities to work on listening skills. Shes funny and imaginative and sensitive. Weve started seeing a psychologist who is referring us to a child psychiatrist (this may take many months). The psychologist thinks gifted, ADHD, ODD and anxiety. Shes trying to help us take baby steps and find ways to cope. Right now Im trying jelly beans to get her into the car in the morning not as a reward just that they are there and she may want to get to the car in order to have one. They are all different with the kinds on the back which appeals to her thinking. The psychologist asked us when we enjoy her honestly it doesnt seem like we get to. I would love to have time with her that is happy instead of looking forward to bedtime or parking her in front of a movie to get a moments peace. Thanks for letting me vent. I would appreciate any methods of coping that have worked for you. Were willing to try almost anything.