I used to feel very mentally healthy, but I really don't anymore. I go through my day with a high level of anxiety, and I feel like I may be sliding into a depression. I'm never quite sure what difficult child is going to do next, and I see that's a common theme here. How do you all keep the stress at bay? MidwestMom suggested we get our difficult child in for a neuro-psychiatric evaluation, but husband isn't interested. He's pretty sure that difficult child's behavioral problems are from the ADHD and his family issues. I'm trying to detach myself emotionally from difficult child's problems. But it's really hard not to worry about his grades (nearly all F's), feel anxiety about what I'm going to find when I come home from work, or to feel hurt when he disrespects or insults me. I try to think the best of him, but then I'm depressed and disappointed if he goes in the opposite direction. And if I start to think of the bad things he might do, I feel guilty if it turns out he's behaved himself. I find myself hiding things because I don't want him to touch them. And then I'm always double-checking my stashes to make sure they're still hidden. I can't tell him not to touch something or eat something or use something and trust him not to do it. I am in daily contact with his teachers. I'm tired. I feel like I'm living life in a haze right now. Our counselor has urged us to be more positive, so here I am, telling difficult child that I'm proud of the work he's done and that I hope he has a good day...after he insulted me. How am I supposed to stay positive??