Well, I guess I HAVE to go to flaky bro's wedding in May now. My future sister in law emailed me to say her mom wants to know what to order for me and my mom to wear at the wedding. Would it be tacky to not show up if they've ordered me flowers? Yeah, I thought so. Crud. I have no idea. I'm leaning towards something for my wrist, because I certainly don't need any more attention drawn to my chest! I guess I'd better start looking in earnest for something to wear. AND a SITTER since it's a NO KIDS reception. Though they still haven't said what's up with the ceremony... I could maybe just sneak everybody in for that part, and then LEAVE. To wear, to wear, what to wear? Future sister in law sent me color swatches (ribbons) of the bridesmaids/mother of bride dresses so I can find something to match (if I want)? I guess since her folks are helping to pay for the wedding they can pick what they're wearing first (versus my mom telling everyone "here, this is what I'm wearing")... I don't know what time the ceremony is, but I do know the reception is at 6pm... and it's an outdoor reception down at the beach, so the temp. will be on the cool side. I guess I could always fall back on black if I have to... Bro is wearing a black suit (no tux). I'm thinking of hitting some thrift stores to see if I get lucky and find something suitable AND affordable. I just really do not want to spend a ton of money for this. My mom and I are just a wee bit jaded about this whole situation -- probably because this is the 5th serious girlfriend he's had that we've met. He dates these nice women for 4 or 5+ years, getting them enmeshed in our families by bringing them around for holidays, birthdays, etc., and then they split up (we think they start talking wedding bells and he gets cold feet). After the last breakup, my mom told him to not bother bringing anyone around unless there was a ring on her finger or it was at least imminent. She was tired of getting attached to these girlfriends of his. Can't say I blame her. What feels so weird to me, though, is that he's marrying a person who's a total stranger to me. I hardly know anything about her. Maybe that's why it's hard for me to get excited about this.