Corys "cousin"

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by DammitJanet, Aug 19, 2008.

  1. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I dont know how many of you guys remember me posting about this boy when it happened but I will quickly repeat myself. R is about 26 or 27 years old. He has grown up on the same street as my kids their entire lives and may be somehow related in some distant way. R and Cory consider themselves to be least that is how they present themselves to everyone.

    Well...I guess it must have been late last summer R was drinking at the river and dove into the river and hit his head on a tree trunk and broke his neck. He is now paralyzed from just below the neck down. He has partial use of his arms but not full use. He does feel pain...lots of it.

    This kid...and I still think of him as a in agony. He is in a rehab right now and called today telling Cory how he doesnt want to live anymore. I cant blame him. Its killing Cory. Cory cant go to him because of his house arrest. The docs say R may live for maybe 4 more years. 4 painful years. Cory is in agony hearing his best friend crying on the phone. Cory starts crying. (This is where the anti-social thing doest fit)

    There really isnt anything anyone can do. This kid was a huge difficult child before this all happened. He would have continued to be one if it hadnt happened. Natural consequences. They bite. But could you guys just keep a good thought that the best thing that could happen, does happen for both R and Cory? In a perfect world the pain would go away and they would both be fixed...but that aint gonna happen.
  2. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    I'm sorry to hear about this, Janet, for R and Cory both. You are right, natural consequences just bite sometimes. Unfortunately, sometimes they bite harder than they should. Can't the doctors give him something for pain? Can he come in a wheelchair to visit Cory?

    I'll keep him in my thoughts- I hate to hear of someone just sufferring like that.
  3. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Janet, Cory is a regular in my prayers. But I will include R as well. I hope Cory learns some very valuable life lessons from R's tragedy and pain. Unfortunately natural concequences can be extreme.

  4. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    Oh,honey, of course I will keep R in my prayers and hope that the best outcome for Cory and R comes to be. I am so sorry that Cory is hurting for his cousin. And that R is hurting. I hope that the docs can help with the pain. Maybe one of the new implanted pain medication pumps would help??

    I hope if cory keeps his nose clean the PO will let him ahve a day to go see his cousing before things get a lot worse, unless seeing R would send Cory off on a bender or something.

    hugs and prayers,
  5. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Sending prayers. This is just heartbreaking.
  6. house of cards

    house of cards New Member

    Sending my prayers.
  7. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    Prayers going out for all of you.

    And a big hug for Cory and R.
  8. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    This is always so sad. I will keep them in my thoughts as well.

  9. svengandhi

    svengandhi Well-Known Member

    Has he seen a physiatrist or a pain management specialist. There are medications that can be given through a PCA that could alleviate his pain. My cousin is a para, below the waist, and has been since the mid-80's. His pain has stabilized but he still gets terrible spasms in his legs for which he takes muscle relaxants. He sees a pain doctor twice a year.
  10. katya02

    katya02 Solace

    I was also wondering about muscle relaxants and/or a pain clinic. How terrible for R. I'm so sorry. There are medications that are geared to neurogenic pain as well ... I really hope R has a doctor who is trying everything possible.
  11. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Adding in more prayers.
  12. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    I had a close friend that dove into the ocean and broke his neck in the water when I was about 21. He was paralyzed. It's a horrible thing to go through and the guilt that I felt for not being more a part of his life was tremendous. Seeing him deteriorate from a buck of 200 or so pounds to less than 95 was more than humbling. Saying prayers.
  13. meowbunny

    meowbunny New Member

    Many prayers for all of you. There are times (?) when I just don't understand that we will relieve a pet from suffering but expect a human to suffer more than can be endured.

    May things be resolved somehow soon.