So tomorrow is the court date for difficult child stealing her brothers car and wrecking. When easy child went to pick up his car (they empounded it for some reason), they wanted $500.00 dollars. He asked to see a hearing officer. I agreed he shouldn't have to pay for it being the victom. He had tried to talk to the police about charging difficult child with theft. He has not heard back from them. They said couldn't do theft but maybe joy-riding (which can be a 3rd degree felony). I'm anxious. Part of me wants her thrown to the wolf. Part of me justs wants her to get stuck with fines and restitution so she can keep working. I still don't understand why we are going to the justice court instead of JJS? They had her age. I am worried that they may send us back to that horrid judge at JJS. I'm being selfish, but I don't want to face him. He is a jerk. He has mood swings and cuts you off when you try to talk, and says cruel things like, " What do you want a magic bullet? She's crazy, nothings going to stop that." or he judges you-called my husband a biker (he's almost bald so he shaves his head and has a nice beard)even though he has never owned a bike and would never. He is not helpful at all and is known for erratic decisions and working outside of the law. Yet, she may need this to stop her. I just dread this man. We wil have to have our attorney back because you cant go in there without one to protect yourself from his erratic behavior. Even poor people get help when they deal with him. I don't know that jail will help anyway?? My husband thinks it will just make things worse and that making her pay is the best. I don't know. I know I am staying out the way. It is hard. What happens, happens. I want easy child to feel supported as well. This is a horrible situation for a mom and dad. Yesterday we spent almost 4 hours at the doctor and hospitol with a gyn-endocronologist. difficult child had to tell all and I could not stop my tears. The abuse stuff and all her sexual acting out is still heart wrenching. She was diagnosed with Polycyctic Ovarian Disease, even before the blood work. They are testing androgen levels which the Dr. is convinced will come back high. She thinks some of the sexual acting out an impulsivity may be part of this imbalance. Daughter will be taking metformin, a high dose BC pill and then a drug to block androgen. In addition she was almost ordered into Weight Watchers. She was told with her history and the family genetics she had to get her weight down. The metformin may help stop her voracious appitite. Of course if she used MJ-we are just plain out of luck there-she will eat until she pops after she has smoked. She says she is 2 weeks clean? Haven't seen the evidence of use but who knows. Nothing is ever smooth with this kid. There isn't any part of her that is ok. It must be hard to be her.