Yes, tomorrow, 10 am, CST. Talked to my attorney today for over an hour (ouch!). Have outline, documentation, back-up copies, etc. Also have an envelope of bank stuff, etc. for difficult child if he's "emancipated" - quotes because MO doesn't have "emancipation", but they DO have something similar. They just refuse to use the word. But, I digress - this is the part I hate. husband and I need to make a decision. We need to formally ask the judge for relief. Now, the judge can do one of several things, and we have a few options. None of them are good, really: He can order difficult child into the military. We're not sure, really, if this is possible, altho it could be good for him; there are plenty of volunteers these days plus with his record...yeah, right. If you'll recall, he was expelled from military school. He can order difficult child into residential treatment. Now, difficult child has been resistent to treatment because he thinks he's just fine and everyone else is the problem - a court-perpetuated myth, if you will! However, in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), he would be subject to SOME treatment, just by being there. Yes, he could fake it - but he might learn some coping/adjusting skills and be more in control, less apt to explode, etc. The downside, of course, is the cost, which we would have to absorb and which would be substantial. He can put difficult child back into detention - or even big-boy jail, now that he's 17. It would get him off the streets, away from us, I wouldn't have to lock up like Fort Knox and jump at every noise. He could also send difficult child into DYS - work-camp/school etc. for teens. Of course, he has his GED, and a job or two, so.... He can send difficult child home, with instructions to behave. 'Cause, ya know, that has worked SO WELL the LAST 15 times! Thoughts? Ideas? Suggestions? Help?? Me? I'm a wreck. About to lose it on all fronts. Am maintaining, just barely. Going through the motions, so to speak. Missed a BUNCH of deadlines this week, spent the day going through files and re-reading a lot of well, STUFF. You know.