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<blockquote data-quote="ColleenB" data-source="post: 715568" data-attributes="member: 19887"><p>I'm so sorry you are living this nightmare.... I too live in Canada (east coast) and we have found there is next to nothing here for help. Our son turns 23 today and we have been on this roller coaster since he was 18/19. </p><p></p><p>He recently went to detox for the first time, but they only kept him a week and I don't think that was even close to adequate. However, at least it was his decision so he is starting to acknowledge he has a problem. Up to this point he pretty much denied an addiction. He moved out this past month... that has helped my mental health but it's always there in your mind.... it's like a huge heartbreak that clings to everything.... listening to friends talk about their kids is like having a knife in the heart as you don't want to or can't talk about your kid... it's carying around so much shame and pain. </p><p></p><p>I am finding we pay lip service to understanding mental illness and addiction but the reality is that we still blame and judge. The system does not help. </p><p></p><p>We have spent some time reading and learning about CRAFT and I think the theory is actually good... but it would depend on the implementation and who is involved, their skill set.. training... etc...</p><p></p><p>I have never been able to do the tough love angle... as our son is usually very amiable... there was a brief period when he was young he was more volatile, mostly anger. However he has been more depressed as of late and we just couldn't tell him to leave. He has been told we will always have a bed for him. Even so, I understand how others have had to ask their kids to leave. I think for me, understanding we each have very different circumstances and individuals. Our son may have different needs than yours, no two situations are exactly the same. </p><p></p><p>Today is his 23rd birthday and I don't know how I feel. We are having a small family BBQ with his grandparents , which we made sure he was ok with, and he did express wanting to see them. It's so sad to see him now as he isn't happy. It's hard to explain it to family but I'm sure they suspect. Some members know, but grandparents do not. </p><p></p><p>Having a hard time getting myself out of bed today... some days are harder than others. I do wish some peace for you and your family, it's a tough road.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ColleenB, post: 715568, member: 19887"] I'm so sorry you are living this nightmare.... I too live in Canada (east coast) and we have found there is next to nothing here for help. Our son turns 23 today and we have been on this roller coaster since he was 18/19. He recently went to detox for the first time, but they only kept him a week and I don't think that was even close to adequate. However, at least it was his decision so he is starting to acknowledge he has a problem. Up to this point he pretty much denied an addiction. He moved out this past month... that has helped my mental health but it's always there in your mind.... it's like a huge heartbreak that clings to everything.... listening to friends talk about their kids is like having a knife in the heart as you don't want to or can't talk about your kid... it's carying around so much shame and pain. I am finding we pay lip service to understanding mental illness and addiction but the reality is that we still blame and judge. The system does not help. We have spent some time reading and learning about CRAFT and I think the theory is actually good... but it would depend on the implementation and who is involved, their skill set.. training... etc... I have never been able to do the tough love angle... as our son is usually very amiable... there was a brief period when he was young he was more volatile, mostly anger. However he has been more depressed as of late and we just couldn't tell him to leave. He has been told we will always have a bed for him. Even so, I understand how others have had to ask their kids to leave. I think for me, understanding we each have very different circumstances and individuals. Our son may have different needs than yours, no two situations are exactly the same. Today is his 23rd birthday and I don't know how I feel. We are having a small family BBQ with his grandparents , which we made sure he was ok with, and he did express wanting to see them. It's so sad to see him now as he isn't happy. It's hard to explain it to family but I'm sure they suspect. Some members know, but grandparents do not. Having a hard time getting myself out of bed today... some days are harder than others. I do wish some peace for you and your family, it's a tough road. [/QUOTE]
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