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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 68883" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I am sure you feel that you can't scrape up one more ounce of</p><p>energy to support your son through another crisis. Believe me I</p><p>understand completely. Wednesday night I had an evening alone at</p><p>home and I spent three hours just sobbing and telling the walls</p><p>that I just couldn't stand one more day etc. etc. I was able to</p><p>climb in bed and leave a note for husband and difficult child to please not wake</p><p>me up as I was very very tired.</p><p></p><p>I woke up yesterday with just enough extra energy to spend a few</p><p>hours trying to do what I could do to help easy child/difficult child. By noon I wished that I could leave work and come home and get back in bed</p><p>until this morning...not! </p><p></p><p>Why am I sharing this? I'm not trying to steal your thread, my</p><p>friend. I'm sincerely telling you I DO understand. BUT I also</p><p>understand that if you have to cry, scream, throw things, hide</p><p>under your pillows or whatever...you can pull up enough strength</p><p>to call the SW at the facility and ask politely "is it possible that my son is in an environment that we all thought would be best for him but in fact may be frightening him more than the jail environment?" Tell her "I'm XX and I apologize for calling</p><p>you (fill in the blank..."since you have done so much before to</p><p>help our family" or "since I am sure you have stacks of file to</p><p>work on"...whatever that is sincere) BUT my son is calling and</p><p>sounds so sincerely frightened. Could you explain to me what</p><p>evaluations are being done? Is he on a new medication? Is he in a unit</p><p>where he is odd man out?"</p><p></p><p>Make a list of brief questions that you can ask. Do what you have to do to get yourself build up enough for an hour or two</p><p>more of being a Warrior Moma....then do it, my friend.</p><p></p><p>I know many will disagree and say don't intervene. I believe he</p><p>is a frightened vulnerable youngster who needs you to understand</p><p>his position so he can hear it from you. He trusts you. He no</p><p>doubt loves you. He is not well.</p><p></p><p>See what you can find out and see if it sounds therapeutic to you</p><p>from your persepective. If so, explain it to difficult child and tell him</p><p>truthfully "son, this is the best that is available so do your</p><p>best to take advantage of it". I love you but I can accept daily</p><p>telephone calls that are upsetting to both of us. Let's agree</p><p>on how many calls a week we will share and remember I will be</p><p>saying prayers and thinking of you every day." DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 68883, member: 35"] I am sure you feel that you can't scrape up one more ounce of energy to support your son through another crisis. Believe me I understand completely. Wednesday night I had an evening alone at home and I spent three hours just sobbing and telling the walls that I just couldn't stand one more day etc. etc. I was able to climb in bed and leave a note for husband and difficult child to please not wake me up as I was very very tired. I woke up yesterday with just enough extra energy to spend a few hours trying to do what I could do to help easy child/difficult child. By noon I wished that I could leave work and come home and get back in bed until this morning...not! Why am I sharing this? I'm not trying to steal your thread, my friend. I'm sincerely telling you I DO understand. BUT I also understand that if you have to cry, scream, throw things, hide under your pillows or whatever...you can pull up enough strength to call the SW at the facility and ask politely "is it possible that my son is in an environment that we all thought would be best for him but in fact may be frightening him more than the jail environment?" Tell her "I'm XX and I apologize for calling you (fill in the blank..."since you have done so much before to help our family" or "since I am sure you have stacks of file to work on"...whatever that is sincere) BUT my son is calling and sounds so sincerely frightened. Could you explain to me what evaluations are being done? Is he on a new medication? Is he in a unit where he is odd man out?" Make a list of brief questions that you can ask. Do what you have to do to get yourself build up enough for an hour or two more of being a Warrior Moma....then do it, my friend. I know many will disagree and say don't intervene. I believe he is a frightened vulnerable youngster who needs you to understand his position so he can hear it from you. He trusts you. He no doubt loves you. He is not well. See what you can find out and see if it sounds therapeutic to you from your persepective. If so, explain it to difficult child and tell him truthfully "son, this is the best that is available so do your best to take advantage of it". I love you but I can accept daily telephone calls that are upsetting to both of us. Let's agree on how many calls a week we will share and remember I will be saying prayers and thinking of you every day." DDD [/QUOTE]
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