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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 22349" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>the after school tea sounds nice. so does walking dog with wm. Yes, in my opinion those are also rituals. Some things do not necessarily start out as rituals but quickly become rituals. And each of us might carry some over from our family of origin, but we also can create opur own for the families we create. One year quite by coincidence I ran into a friend at a town parade and we decided last minute to gather and have a cookout, the following year it happened again. The 3rd year she was somewhere else, and my kids said hey mom! Its tradition to cookout with them after this parade! Oh uh yeah..guess it kinda had become so. </p><p>And yes, I agree, they contribute to a feeling of roots and belonging and are a comfort. It was hard some of our extended family rituals fell by wayside when the family estrangement happened, but we created new ones, tailored to ourself at this time in our life. Some were similar, some were altered and some were brand new. and hey we ARE family, me, husband and our 3 kids. Family are the people you love and care about. Doesn't matter where we are. Sure sometimes we have had to make do- I used to work all holidays and most weekends and lots of nites........flexibility. Now my easy child works. But we jiggle things a little or she does some of our rituals with her friends or sometimes the rest of us do them without her. And sometimes I myself was far too sick to carry out the rituals, and maybe one of the kids might step in or we would alter the ritual slightly- like when I could not roll out the dough and cut it, we cheated and bought ready tobake "just this once" and when I could not set up the tree to prepare it for decorating, my SON - bless his lil heart, the tree was so much bigger than him, HE somehow got it up. I sat in my chair while they decorated--</p><p></p><p>Some rituals sometimes kids are glad when they cannot be done..BUT LOL- afterwards sometimes they regret that the ritual did not happen as it always has, and sometimes you find out the next time, maybe the kids will institute it becuz they DID miss it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 22349, member: 1697"] the after school tea sounds nice. so does walking dog with wm. Yes, in my opinion those are also rituals. Some things do not necessarily start out as rituals but quickly become rituals. And each of us might carry some over from our family of origin, but we also can create opur own for the families we create. One year quite by coincidence I ran into a friend at a town parade and we decided last minute to gather and have a cookout, the following year it happened again. The 3rd year she was somewhere else, and my kids said hey mom! Its tradition to cookout with them after this parade! Oh uh yeah..guess it kinda had become so. And yes, I agree, they contribute to a feeling of roots and belonging and are a comfort. It was hard some of our extended family rituals fell by wayside when the family estrangement happened, but we created new ones, tailored to ourself at this time in our life. Some were similar, some were altered and some were brand new. and hey we ARE family, me, husband and our 3 kids. Family are the people you love and care about. Doesn't matter where we are. Sure sometimes we have had to make do- I used to work all holidays and most weekends and lots of nites........flexibility. Now my easy child works. But we jiggle things a little or she does some of our rituals with her friends or sometimes the rest of us do them without her. And sometimes I myself was far too sick to carry out the rituals, and maybe one of the kids might step in or we would alter the ritual slightly- like when I could not roll out the dough and cut it, we cheated and bought ready tobake "just this once" and when I could not set up the tree to prepare it for decorating, my SON - bless his lil heart, the tree was so much bigger than him, HE somehow got it up. I sat in my chair while they decorated-- Some rituals sometimes kids are glad when they cannot be done..BUT LOL- afterwards sometimes they regret that the ritual did not happen as it always has, and sometimes you find out the next time, maybe the kids will institute it becuz they DID miss it. [/QUOTE]
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