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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 653196" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>I know the feeling of trying to figure what the heck happened that your kids turned to drugs. I don't think him there is any one answer. Plenty of kids who were adopted don't become addicts, plenty of kids with serious trauma and abuse don't become addicts. When I get into that place of trying to figure out the why I get all tangled up in my own feelings of guilt and inadequacies as a mother. As a wise friend told me way before I had kids ...."none of us reach adulthood with a full deck". I think there are various things people go through and some get through those things and some don't.</p><p></p><p>So yes adoption is probably one issue but it likely not the only one. Genetics is a big factor in addiction. I think issues of loss (of all sorts) and self esteem are huge factors....and then there is the way in which drugs help some numb and deal with their feelings. There is no one answer.</p><p></p><p>What is true is that at this point he has choices in how or when he is willing to take steps to move forward, you can't make him do that or to be ready to do that. While he is under 18 you can try to get him help....and hopefully at least stay relatively safe, ultimately though it will be his choice to go forward or stay stuck n addictio.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you. I hope you have found a parents alanon group. That is one of the things that has kept me going.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 653196, member: 15801"] I know the feeling of trying to figure what the heck happened that your kids turned to drugs. I don't think him there is any one answer. Plenty of kids who were adopted don't become addicts, plenty of kids with serious trauma and abuse don't become addicts. When I get into that place of trying to figure out the why I get all tangled up in my own feelings of guilt and inadequacies as a mother. As a wise friend told me way before I had kids ...."none of us reach adulthood with a full deck". I think there are various things people go through and some get through those things and some don't. So yes adoption is probably one issue but it likely not the only one. Genetics is a big factor in addiction. I think issues of loss (of all sorts) and self esteem are huge factors....and then there is the way in which drugs help some numb and deal with their feelings. There is no one answer. What is true is that at this point he has choices in how or when he is willing to take steps to move forward, you can't make him do that or to be ready to do that. While he is under 18 you can try to get him help....and hopefully at least stay relatively safe, ultimately though it will be his choice to go forward or stay stuck n addictio. Hugs to you. I hope you have found a parents alanon group. That is one of the things that has kept me going. TL [/QUOTE]
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