This has been mentioned in a few recent threads....and I was wondering what everyone else thinks about this... It is very common for therapists to recommend "relationship building" activities with our difficult children. Take your child to do something special...just the two of you...use the time to discuss the child's interests, don't focus on negatives....just have a good time... And while that sounds all well and good - I'll be darned if I can get it to work in real life! My difficult child lies like she breathes. I have a very hard time having a conversation with her about anything...what comes out of her mouth is just outrageous! The second problem I have is that our perception of things is so different. difficult child and I will go shopping - I will think we had a nice time....while difficult child complains how horrible it was...or will say something just completely hurtful about it. Trying to have these "relationship building" activities usually leaves me feeling emotionally drained, frustrated and hurt - like I just went 20 rounds in the boxing ring instead of spending time with my child. Anybody else experience this?