Perfect response! Leaving the problem where it belongs (with your brother), being kind to Mom (who needs Al-anon) and modeling for Mom how she can chose to respond to your brother as well if she wanted to find healthier ways of relating. You are a power of example!Wise and Copa,
Thank you for teaching me self-care. I will use your beautiful words. It has painted a picture of a world with peace that I can achieve. I have never meditated, not sure how, but I will research it.
I called mom and moved our visit up to tomorrow to lessen the anxiousness of the wait. She mentioned that brother "doesn't know what he's going to do after Christmas " and hit her up for $1600 for a truck. She wanted my advice on what to do because she doesn't have the money to give him.
I practiced self care! My response was "hope he figures it out, I'll say a prayer for him " and changed the subject. I told her she sounded cheerful and couldn't wait to see her tomorrow!
And now I'm going to figure out how to meditate!
There should be all kinds of groups and instruction on the internet, similar to this. There are forms of meditation that are not faith-based. One of these is called "relaxation response." I just checked and there are youtube videos and articles online.And now I'm going to figure out how to meditate!
JMom, you never have to apologize for sharing/ranting/venting, that is what this site is for.Sorry for the rant. I re-read all of your posts and fully plan to attempt self care today.