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Cutting off family & trying to quiet my brain
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 754407" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p style="text-align: left"><span style="font-family: 'trebuchet ms'"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="font-family: 'trebuchet ms'"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">Wow! What a great story. </span></span></p><p>I don't know if I would feel sad or mad, here.</p><p>I agree with Tanya, here.</p><p></p><p>This is how I feel. You can't fix either one of them. I think there must be something in you that believes you are responsible. You're not.</p><p></p><p>You did not one thing wrong. You know exactly why you helped your brother. And it makes sense. You have not one thing to justify. To yourself or anybody.</p><p></p><p>I think your Mom is free to be who she needs to be and wants to be. Your brother, the same. Their relationship is theirs to enjoy or suffer from. You are free to forgive your mother for trying to manipulate and set you up about Christmas. This is what she has done. But she's unaware.</p><p></p><p>I am realizing late in life that I can let things go. That I don't have to take anything to heart if I don't want to. I call it "turning." I see I am free to just turn in another direction. And with that, I'm free.</p><p></p><p>You can do the same. Just let it be. If you want to go to Christmas. Go. Have a great time. You are not responsible for anything. You are free to have fun and love them both. And then, leave.</p><p></p><p>If you don't want to go, don't. That, too, is fine. You don't have to carry any of this on you. You've had burden enough. You can choose to let all of the rest go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 754407, member: 18958"] [LEFT][FONT=trebuchet ms][COLOR=rgb(20, 20, 20)] Wow! What a great story. [/COLOR][/FONT][/LEFT] I don't know if I would feel sad or mad, here. I agree with Tanya, here. This is how I feel. You can't fix either one of them. I think there must be something in you that believes you are responsible. You're not. You did not one thing wrong. You know exactly why you helped your brother. And it makes sense. You have not one thing to justify. To yourself or anybody. I think your Mom is free to be who she needs to be and wants to be. Your brother, the same. Their relationship is theirs to enjoy or suffer from. You are free to forgive your mother for trying to manipulate and set you up about Christmas. This is what she has done. But she's unaware. I am realizing late in life that I can let things go. That I don't have to take anything to heart if I don't want to. I call it "turning." I see I am free to just turn in another direction. And with that, I'm free. You can do the same. Just let it be. If you want to go to Christmas. Go. Have a great time. You are not responsible for anything. You are free to have fun and love them both. And then, leave. If you don't want to go, don't. That, too, is fine. You don't have to carry any of this on you. You've had burden enough. You can choose to let all of the rest go. [/QUOTE]
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