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Cutting off family & trying to quiet my brain
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 754419" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>“Long story short, he's not sober, so I'm out and moms in. I want my life back. How do I stop thinking aboutthem? I'm on a seven day break from work and want joy.”</p><p></p><p>I’m so sorry for all your stress and emotional pain. Your brother is very ill and doesn’t wish to get better. Your mother strongly leans toward enabling. I would consider removing yourself from his life. And let your mom know you wish to remain in hers (if that’s the case) but only if she is honest with you and that the great majority of times it will need to be separate from your brother. This means separate visit times and little to no discussion (s) about him. If he is living there, arrangements will need to be made for her to visit you, or you can meet your mom at a mutual agreed upon location etc. some thought will need to be put into the situation.</p><p></p><p>Consider using positive affirmations to control your thoughts. You can do this. After all...just like your attitude and behaviors are in your control...so are your thoughts. You can allow yourself a brief moment of review ...but then chose to look at it in the way that serves you best. You’ve been this route before. Probably many times. Seek what brings you joy...who helps you feel joyous...go in that direction thoughts and all at 100 mph.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 754419, member: 4152"] “Long story short, he's not sober, so I'm out and moms in. I want my life back. How do I stop thinking aboutthem? I'm on a seven day break from work and want joy.” I’m so sorry for all your stress and emotional pain. Your brother is very ill and doesn’t wish to get better. Your mother strongly leans toward enabling. I would consider removing yourself from his life. And let your mom know you wish to remain in hers (if that’s the case) but only if she is honest with you and that the great majority of times it will need to be separate from your brother. This means separate visit times and little to no discussion (s) about him. If he is living there, arrangements will need to be made for her to visit you, or you can meet your mom at a mutual agreed upon location etc. some thought will need to be put into the situation. Consider using positive affirmations to control your thoughts. You can do this. After all...just like your attitude and behaviors are in your control...so are your thoughts. You can allow yourself a brief moment of review ...but then chose to look at it in the way that serves you best. You’ve been this route before. Probably many times. Seek what brings you joy...who helps you feel joyous...go in that direction thoughts and all at 100 mph. [/QUOTE]
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