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D/S Disciplined because IEP Not Followed
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 35763" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>He should not be penalised, if</p><p></p><p>1) he was wandering because THEy failed to implement the IEP; and</p><p></p><p>2) YOU are the one who notified them.</p><p></p><p>Basically, they are punishing you for rocking the boat. This is petty and bullying behaviour, it must be stopped.</p><p></p><p>I don't generally recommend this next bit, except for desperate situations - I have in the past had to resort to being a bully myself. I have to show the school that I can kick harder than they can. I've told them that if I feel that my child is being victimised because of something I've said or done, then I will take legal/media action, HARD. And even if their intention was not to victimise, it will come down to what I perceive - I will react IF, IN MY OPINION, he is being victimised by them.</p><p>I also warned them that due to past problems being dealt with badly, I am increasingly paranoid and therefore much more likely to assume deliberate malice, rather than misunderstanding. There had been too many 'misunderstandings' at this stage and I was making it clear that I was no longer going to tolerate any 'wiggle room' or "We didn't understand."</p><p></p><p>I would put your concerns in writing. begin with a bald statement of events. Quote the IEP. Ask why the IEP was not followed. Then ask why he is being penalised for what is a dereliction of duty by the school. You could also point out that if any child, including him, had been injured either by him or by any freak circumstance resulting from his failure to be chaperoned, that the school would have been left without a leg to stand on legally, financially or morally. If he had been out in the school grounds for longer than he should have been, due to this lack of supervision, and had as a result been in the wrong place and hit by a stray comet, the school would still be in trouble.</p><p></p><p>Ask if what you have heard, that he is to be punished for this, is really true. Ask them to give you the answer in writing.</p><p>Then either hand-deliver your letter (especially if the matter is urgent - he is about to be punished the next day, for example) or send it registered mail with acknowledgement of receipt to you.</p><p></p><p>Having your concerns in writing, and being asked, in writing, to reply in writing, is scary for them because you are asking for something which could turn round and bite them on the behind later on if they get it wrong. </p><p>Chances are, their response will be, "Wherever did you get the idea that he was going to be punished? Of course not! And we have chastised the staff member responsible."</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 35763, member: 1991"] He should not be penalised, if 1) he was wandering because THEy failed to implement the IEP; and 2) YOU are the one who notified them. Basically, they are punishing you for rocking the boat. This is petty and bullying behaviour, it must be stopped. I don't generally recommend this next bit, except for desperate situations - I have in the past had to resort to being a bully myself. I have to show the school that I can kick harder than they can. I've told them that if I feel that my child is being victimised because of something I've said or done, then I will take legal/media action, HARD. And even if their intention was not to victimise, it will come down to what I perceive - I will react IF, IN MY OPINION, he is being victimised by them. I also warned them that due to past problems being dealt with badly, I am increasingly paranoid and therefore much more likely to assume deliberate malice, rather than misunderstanding. There had been too many 'misunderstandings' at this stage and I was making it clear that I was no longer going to tolerate any 'wiggle room' or "We didn't understand." I would put your concerns in writing. begin with a bald statement of events. Quote the IEP. Ask why the IEP was not followed. Then ask why he is being penalised for what is a dereliction of duty by the school. You could also point out that if any child, including him, had been injured either by him or by any freak circumstance resulting from his failure to be chaperoned, that the school would have been left without a leg to stand on legally, financially or morally. If he had been out in the school grounds for longer than he should have been, due to this lack of supervision, and had as a result been in the wrong place and hit by a stray comet, the school would still be in trouble. Ask if what you have heard, that he is to be punished for this, is really true. Ask them to give you the answer in writing. Then either hand-deliver your letter (especially if the matter is urgent - he is about to be punished the next day, for example) or send it registered mail with acknowledgement of receipt to you. Having your concerns in writing, and being asked, in writing, to reply in writing, is scary for them because you are asking for something which could turn round and bite them on the behind later on if they get it wrong. Chances are, their response will be, "Wherever did you get the idea that he was going to be punished? Of course not! And we have chastised the staff member responsible." Good luck. Marg [/QUOTE]
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