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"Dad, don't tell them anything about me anymore, even if I'm dying"
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 676748" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Thank you, Serenity. </p><p></p><p>I can see and understand that for you. I remember your coming through this phase too, and wondering how feeling the way it feels at this point could possibly be the right thing. Because there does come a point (and I think I am working there now) when denial does give way to revulsion. </p><p></p><p>It becomes a moral question.</p><p></p><p>I am still on the fence a little about all of this. It seems wrong to believe I have a capacity to judge anyone else's behavior. The other side there is that until I do, until I am truly able to get it that the mother who knowingly batters her children <em>and conceals it</em> knows what she is doing. That mother is making a moral choice to victimize. </p><p></p><p>But it feels wrong, at least at this point, to say so.</p><p></p><p>You were right that one day I would stop being angry though, so I will hold faith with myself on this one, too.</p><p></p><p>And Copa too, I am thinking. We are both sort of coming at this same place where we need to decide something impossible to believe is actually true, and has been true, all of our lives.</p><p></p><p>Then, we will be free of the emotional entanglements that somehow still exist between ourselves and our families of origin.</p><p></p><p>Thank you, Serenity.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 676748, member: 17461"] Thank you, Serenity. I can see and understand that for you. I remember your coming through this phase too, and wondering how feeling the way it feels at this point could possibly be the right thing. Because there does come a point (and I think I am working there now) when denial does give way to revulsion. It becomes a moral question. I am still on the fence a little about all of this. It seems wrong to believe I have a capacity to judge anyone else's behavior. The other side there is that until I do, until I am truly able to get it that the mother who knowingly batters her children [I]and conceals it[/I] knows what she is doing. That mother is making a moral choice to victimize. But it feels wrong, at least at this point, to say so. You were right that one day I would stop being angry though, so I will hold faith with myself on this one, too. And Copa too, I am thinking. We are both sort of coming at this same place where we need to decide something impossible to believe is actually true, and has been true, all of our lives. Then, we will be free of the emotional entanglements that somehow still exist between ourselves and our families of origin. Thank you, Serenity. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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