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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 67594" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Honestly, I <em>do</em> remember those times. M was younger when there was that behavior though. By the time he was fifteen, he just used his hateful glare. All the time.</p><p></p><p>About the dinner, boy did <em>he</em> have everyone going. If husband told him they were going to Sonic, husband should have done it. They could walk home, but you were cooking dinner. If difficult child didn't want to eat it, then he really <em>could</em> go hungry. Not taking him to Sonic isn't starving him. M's list of what he would and wouldn't eat got longer all of the time. It stopped when husband and I got on the same page and told him "This is what we are having for dinner. Eat it or not, no one cares."</p><p></p><p>At 15 we started telling M that if he wanted to eat things we weren't having or go to movies or whatever his friends were doing he could do even one single chore around the house to earn a little cash, or find a neighbor to do some work for. Wasn't on his to-do list.</p><p></p><p>I've been reading the posts and talking with my friends lately and seeing a common theme. Older teenage boys making their mother's lives h-e-l-l. I know that our boys take it to the extreme, but I think it's a magnification of what is usual for boys. Cutting the apron strings in the only way that they know how. They've gotten what they wanted most of their lives by making us worried or concerned or miserable. What they want is to make their own decisions. They have no money and no skills, so they think they can get that by making us miserable. After all, it's worked before.</p><p></p><p>Not to say it ever got worked out until he got out of the house and actually found out what food costs and what hunger is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 67594, member: 99"] Honestly, I [i]do[/i] remember those times. M was younger when there was that behavior though. By the time he was fifteen, he just used his hateful glare. All the time. About the dinner, boy did [i]he[/i] have everyone going. If husband told him they were going to Sonic, husband should have done it. They could walk home, but you were cooking dinner. If difficult child didn't want to eat it, then he really [i]could[/i] go hungry. Not taking him to Sonic isn't starving him. M's list of what he would and wouldn't eat got longer all of the time. It stopped when husband and I got on the same page and told him "This is what we are having for dinner. Eat it or not, no one cares." At 15 we started telling M that if he wanted to eat things we weren't having or go to movies or whatever his friends were doing he could do even one single chore around the house to earn a little cash, or find a neighbor to do some work for. Wasn't on his to-do list. I've been reading the posts and talking with my friends lately and seeing a common theme. Older teenage boys making their mother's lives h-e-l-l. I know that our boys take it to the extreme, but I think it's a magnification of what is usual for boys. Cutting the apron strings in the only way that they know how. They've gotten what they wanted most of their lives by making us worried or concerned or miserable. What they want is to make their own decisions. They have no money and no skills, so they think they can get that by making us miserable. After all, it's worked before. Not to say it ever got worked out until he got out of the house and actually found out what food costs and what hunger is. [/QUOTE]
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