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<blockquote data-quote="weaselqt" data-source="post: 67763" data-attributes="member: 3989"><p>I am really amazed about how this is linked to food. I mean, he really does freak out and does it over and over and I swear - he can eat an entire chicken, 3 potatoes and in 20 minutes SWEAR he is STARVING!! I just don't know what to do. I am thinking about my family & my husband family - and my dad is that way about food - has been all of his life. My dad gets violent about food and freaks out with people who leave things on their plates. I used to be as anal as my dad about the kids cleaning EVERYHTING on the plate - but realized later in life that it was not so important as I was always taught - but it is a hard battle to break. Have I ruined my difficult child? </p><p></p><p>This morning was pretty bad. I reached over to pull him near me to give him a hug bye before school and he sort of twisted away from me (resisting) and started yelling YOU KNEW MY ANKLE WAS TWISTED AND NOW YOU JUST MADE IT WORSE!!!. I just went in to a rage and shouted "WHY THE HELL DO YOU TREAT ME THIS WAY? WHAT THE F*** DID I DO TO YOU?" and just left for work. I cried all the way to work & then my PC6yo said "MOMMY - are you okay? Are you crying?" (He was in car when this happened in house & didn't see what I did or said). I told him I was fine and not crying. I take him to class - walk to my class and just cry (no students in class for awhile - so I was ok). A coworker told me to get my difficult child counseling and it sounded like we need it as a family. I told her what he said and what I said and I felt horrible! HORRIBLE!! The look on his face was shock when I said that to him - but I am disappointed in myself. I'm a bad parent - I feel as if I am raising him to hate me - and that is not what I want. </p><p></p><p>I saw one of his teachers this afternoon adn asked her how he was today and she said that he is very different than he was last year. She siad my difficult child had good behavior in her class (so far) but is very down and seemed depressed - although she was able to get him to help her set up computers inclass and he was very helpful to her. She said she had the class do self-evaluations and my difficult child put all zeros for the 20 questions (0-10 with 10 being best). </p><p></p><p>We can't get in to see psyc until October - why is this guy always booked? I kinda think the psyc is ADHD - he is always hyper acting and seems to get my difficult child very hyper when we do see him. What gives? Does anyone know of good one in Shreveport, Louisiana?</p><p></p><p>I found out today that our Parish (county) has a grant for counseling at risk youth for this school year and I called today and got that ball rolling. This evening - my difficult child was wonderful. He ate the hamburger steak I cooked (haha - didn't do it last night but did it tonight).</p><p></p><p>I think my husband and I just don't know how to handle difficult child - I didn't know husband said he would eat at sonic and when difficult child wanted to eat at sonic and said no cause I am cooking and husband didn't know I was cooking - so there was no communicatoin on either part. </p><p></p><p>husband says his brother and mom were the same way growing up and now - they can't stand each other. I don't want that to happen to us. I appreciate everyone and really did get some great insight from all posts. I can't believe I never searched for something like this before - ARGH!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="weaselqt, post: 67763, member: 3989"] I am really amazed about how this is linked to food. I mean, he really does freak out and does it over and over and I swear - he can eat an entire chicken, 3 potatoes and in 20 minutes SWEAR he is STARVING!! I just don't know what to do. I am thinking about my family & my husband family - and my dad is that way about food - has been all of his life. My dad gets violent about food and freaks out with people who leave things on their plates. I used to be as anal as my dad about the kids cleaning EVERYHTING on the plate - but realized later in life that it was not so important as I was always taught - but it is a hard battle to break. Have I ruined my difficult child? This morning was pretty bad. I reached over to pull him near me to give him a hug bye before school and he sort of twisted away from me (resisting) and started yelling YOU KNEW MY ANKLE WAS TWISTED AND NOW YOU JUST MADE IT WORSE!!!. I just went in to a rage and shouted "WHY THE HELL DO YOU TREAT ME THIS WAY? WHAT THE F*** DID I DO TO YOU?" and just left for work. I cried all the way to work & then my PC6yo said "MOMMY - are you okay? Are you crying?" (He was in car when this happened in house & didn't see what I did or said). I told him I was fine and not crying. I take him to class - walk to my class and just cry (no students in class for awhile - so I was ok). A coworker told me to get my difficult child counseling and it sounded like we need it as a family. I told her what he said and what I said and I felt horrible! HORRIBLE!! The look on his face was shock when I said that to him - but I am disappointed in myself. I'm a bad parent - I feel as if I am raising him to hate me - and that is not what I want. I saw one of his teachers this afternoon adn asked her how he was today and she said that he is very different than he was last year. She siad my difficult child had good behavior in her class (so far) but is very down and seemed depressed - although she was able to get him to help her set up computers inclass and he was very helpful to her. She said she had the class do self-evaluations and my difficult child put all zeros for the 20 questions (0-10 with 10 being best). We can't get in to see psyc until October - why is this guy always booked? I kinda think the psyc is ADHD - he is always hyper acting and seems to get my difficult child very hyper when we do see him. What gives? Does anyone know of good one in Shreveport, Louisiana? I found out today that our Parish (county) has a grant for counseling at risk youth for this school year and I called today and got that ball rolling. This evening - my difficult child was wonderful. He ate the hamburger steak I cooked (haha - didn't do it last night but did it tonight). I think my husband and I just don't know how to handle difficult child - I didn't know husband said he would eat at sonic and when difficult child wanted to eat at sonic and said no cause I am cooking and husband didn't know I was cooking - so there was no communicatoin on either part. husband says his brother and mom were the same way growing up and now - they can't stand each other. I don't want that to happen to us. I appreciate everyone and really did get some great insight from all posts. I can't believe I never searched for something like this before - ARGH!! [/QUOTE]
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