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Daughter is 22 and has cut us out of her life am devastated.....
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 684065" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I differ in the way I think from some others</p><p></p><p>I do not necessarily believe she is a bad person, just because she has done things that feel hurtful. This is a functional decision on her part. It achieves two important things right off the bat for her. It removes the urgency of repayment, for one. Second, she has drawn a big fat line in the sand.</p><p></p><p>The latter is not a bad thing. She needs to be an adult. Maybe she feels weak and needs to buck up. Maybe she feels it weakens her to have Mummy close. Well, she just got rid of Mummy and her money problems in one fell swoop.</p><p></p><p>Maybe there is learning for you here too. Listen to what she has told you. Was there unnecessary dependency on your part? Was there over involvement? She has a right to her own feelings and her own needs and she is showing you that she can demand the autonomy to express them.</p><p></p><p>These above questions are for you to think about at some point if you choose. Not to answer here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 684065, member: 18958"] I differ in the way I think from some others I do not necessarily believe she is a bad person, just because she has done things that feel hurtful. This is a functional decision on her part. It achieves two important things right off the bat for her. It removes the urgency of repayment, for one. Second, she has drawn a big fat line in the sand. The latter is not a bad thing. She needs to be an adult. Maybe she feels weak and needs to buck up. Maybe she feels it weakens her to have Mummy close. Well, she just got rid of Mummy and her money problems in one fell swoop. Maybe there is learning for you here too. Listen to what she has told you. Was there unnecessary dependency on your part? Was there over involvement? She has a right to her own feelings and her own needs and she is showing you that she can demand the autonomy to express them. These above questions are for you to think about at some point if you choose. Not to answer here. [/QUOTE]
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