So after the blow up and drunken fighting. My dad has since given the car back and she has attended 3 AA meetings. He is hopeful, I am too, especially for the girls. His plan.... Buy her a cheap car to get from Point A to Point B (this will be the 3rd cheap car), put it under her name pay a couple of months of liability insurance. With a firm message of anything happens to this, that's it. It's all I got. He may move her and the girls in with him, with a firm you need to get a job and work close to where we live. She loves working 30+ miles from any support. I've come to realize that the less I know the better. There are certain things I do need to know, but most of it I don't. I can't control what my dad does, and it may develop into resentment later in life. His other grands are doing great, but she gets all the attention and cars. I had the worst anxiety last night and just could not sleep. My dad has been staying with us off and on until they sell their home. I was babysitting the girls, my daughter said she would pick them up by 10:30 pm. So at 10:15 she says she on her way, then about 20 minutes later texted says the cops pulled her over due to the headlight being out (remember someone crashed into it while it was parked...that is the story). My dad said if I wanted to go to bed I could, so I did, but I kept thinking what if he lets her stay the night when I told her she could not or what if she doesn't show up at all...needles to say I am so tired today and none of the above happened... I think a lot times I become a prisoner of my own thoughts and have a tendency to put myself in the middle. Please don't complain about someone else to me.... TELL THEM! I see my therapist next week and I can't wait. My assignment was to plan a trip for myself. Just plan it.