Weary Mother
WEARY MOTHER
I am posting in this forum and hope that it is ok to post here. I have a daughter who has been on prescription opioids for several years. She suffers from depression and has had problems all her life being responsible for herself. She procrastinates, does not follow up on important matters, can't keep a job, etc, etc. All of her depression, prescription drug use, procrastination and stuff causes her to be very dependent. She is 46 at this time and I have encouraged her all I can, tried to get her to file and follow up with disability which she says she filed, but does not contact them to see where the case is at (she does have many health issues which is why she is able to get the opioids and other stuff like anxiety medications). At this time she is alone in a state 500 miles away, long story short she became homeless last summer after a fight with her oldest daughter over the behavior and due to that was ordered out. She went to live with her youngest daughter 500 miles away who has been on disability since age 7 due to mental issues (they diagnosed her at that age with severe bi-polar). HER daughter has many issues, but the important thing is she was pregnant at the time and has since has had the baby. My daughter had worked for a few months after going there but lost her job due to her illness and depression, so was babysitting for the 5 mo. old baby boy. To make matters worse, I believe my daughter has some form of agoraphobia, so she does not make friends well and does not like to be alone but also does not want to get out and mingle either. Also she seems to have no desire to make her life better, nothing that she wants to do. She says she does not want friends because they all lie and can't be trusted but at the same time is very lonely. So, all of a sudden her daughter announces that she no longer wants to be a mother and is going to take the baby to the fire house unless her older sister (the one that booted my daughter out and lives here), comes and gets the baby, so the older daughter gets in the car, drives 500 miles and gets the baby. Now my daughter is in an apartment, alone, no job, no friends, no car and is very depressed. She is using the anxiety and sleeping medications and sleeps a lot. She has put in applications for jobs and has an interview Friday in a nursing home but my worry is she has attempted suicide 2xs before and is not responding to my calls well. I am trying to keep tabs on her and am aware that in her mental shape she is at risk. This is just the latest in a long string of drama that I have had with my adult children, and would appreciate input from anyone here that has any thoughts. By the way, I do know I can't fix her, I have been in this game long enough to know that she has to want the help, but I am having issues with my own ability to handle this. The family suffers from these issues and it is hard to completely detach and just not think about the risk of her committing suicide or worse. Thanks for listening.