I just don't understand my daughter. She is married with 3 children and a fantastic husband. All her life she has pushed people away emotionally. She delighted in making adults (teachers, church leader, camp directors, etc.) CRY. She has also been a chronic liar (even as an adult), especially after she reached about age 12 and up. When I talk with her on the phone she always finds a way to make me feel like a burden to her and she is only tolerating a short talk with me. She won't put her children on the phone so I can talk with them, always saying they are busy or in their room. I spoke with her husband this weekend about a completely different issue but he confided that she is having an affair and doesn't care that it hurts him. I have no words to help him and I am shocked she would do such a thing. She says she can't stand anyone to get close to her and feels no emotion for people or even family. She knows she should feel love, but she says she just doesn't have it in her for anyone. She has seen 4 therapists but as soon as she gets feeling like she can really open up, they move or quit to have a baby, etc. She says she is done with that and refuses to begin again with any more therapists. She is a "naturalist" so won't take any medications. I want nothing more than to be a good friend to our daughter and a grandmother to our grandchildren, but she stands in the way of that. Her husband loves my husband and me and wants the same for all of us. Any advice from people on here who have experienced similar? I am trying to detach emotionally from her because of the constant hurt and cruel words she yells at me just for calling. She says I don't understand her and she is right--I don't. Help please.