Big sigh. A little over a year ago my daughter got was picked up by the police after a domestic issue (she was high and belligerent). She was charged as an adult (17 at the time) and went to adult jail. Since then in the past year I think she's been back about 5 times. Basically all because she refuses to follow the rules: No drugs/alcohol No gangs Keep a job/go to school No police contact Yadda yadda. Seems like the majority of the time she gets locked up it is because we've reported her behavior (which makes me feel guilty, but then when I see her spiraling out of control I don't know what else to do?). She got out of a half-way house back in November, and then moved in with my enabler parents. Within a few weeks things turned sour. She was unaccountable, blatantly using, not working, never saw us-spent all her time with friends... blablabla showing all the tell-tale signs of gang involvement and drug use. She'd slip out almost every night (probably to use or do goodness knows what). There so much more, but basically... after stealing from my mom's purse and lying to her, and then having someone come to my parent's house to recoup drug money, I finally penned a long letter to the PO asking him how long he was going to let this behavior continue. He put a warrant out for her, had her picked up and now she's in jail. My husband feels it is the best thing for her. Looks like she might be there for the remainder of her probation (4 months), and will get out to receive day services during the time. I can't allow myself to have too much hope pinned onto it, and part of me feels really sick about it. I hate having her up in jail and think I have my own set of issues to work through regarding it. Sucks to have her out on the streets using and dancing with danger, but it is difficult, too, to have your 18-year-old kid sit up in jail. I know/hope/think it is probably the best thing for her right now. But it is still hard for me to wrap my brain around.