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Day #4 of Kindergarten/trouble already!
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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 75116" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>I have always addressed it at home. I strongly believe that I need to reinforce good behavior at school. I do this by making my rules very black and white. Respect is the MOST important thing in our house, because if you truly think about it, everything falls under this. If you were treating someone poorly, you aren't being respectful of them. If you destroy something, you aren't respecting it. If you talk back, you're being disrespectful.</p><p></p><p>I am very big on explaining what you did wrong and what you should have done. husband isn't a fan of this, he says "They know what they did wrong." I disagree, especially with difficult children. They don't always know what they did wrong, sometimes they're in a haze when they act out.</p><p></p><p>I'm also very big on letting my kids tell their side of the story. Then I ask for input from anyone I know that was around and also from the teachers involved. Teachers aren't honest people just because they are teachers. It is soooo important to all of my kids that they know I will stand up for them if they are right in the situation. It has happened more than once too.</p><p></p><p>But if they're wrong, I take away priveledges. I explain it is my job to teach the boys to be responsible, respectful and happy adults. If I don't teach them now, the police department will teach them when they get out into the real world. The priveledges I take away depend on how severe the problem was.</p><p></p><p>I don't want teachers implementing their beliefs on my kids as to what is right or wrong without my kids learning it from my point of view as well. I don't know these people and I don't know their values or morals. I want to be the one who teaches my children these lessons. I'm not saying that they don't learn from teachers about this, I just want to be sure I'm always reinforcing it.</p><p></p><p>Many Many Many parents don't agree with bringing it home. Many teachers don't agree with it either. I'm not saying they're wrong or that I'm wrong, we're just different.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 75116, member: 3837"] I have always addressed it at home. I strongly believe that I need to reinforce good behavior at school. I do this by making my rules very black and white. Respect is the MOST important thing in our house, because if you truly think about it, everything falls under this. If you were treating someone poorly, you aren't being respectful of them. If you destroy something, you aren't respecting it. If you talk back, you're being disrespectful. I am very big on explaining what you did wrong and what you should have done. husband isn't a fan of this, he says "They know what they did wrong." I disagree, especially with difficult children. They don't always know what they did wrong, sometimes they're in a haze when they act out. I'm also very big on letting my kids tell their side of the story. Then I ask for input from anyone I know that was around and also from the teachers involved. Teachers aren't honest people just because they are teachers. It is soooo important to all of my kids that they know I will stand up for them if they are right in the situation. It has happened more than once too. But if they're wrong, I take away priveledges. I explain it is my job to teach the boys to be responsible, respectful and happy adults. If I don't teach them now, the police department will teach them when they get out into the real world. The priveledges I take away depend on how severe the problem was. I don't want teachers implementing their beliefs on my kids as to what is right or wrong without my kids learning it from my point of view as well. I don't know these people and I don't know their values or morals. I want to be the one who teaches my children these lessons. I'm not saying that they don't learn from teachers about this, I just want to be sure I'm always reinforcing it. Many Many Many parents don't agree with bringing it home. Many teachers don't agree with it either. I'm not saying they're wrong or that I'm wrong, we're just different. [/QUOTE]
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