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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 630717" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi dazed and welcome. I am sorry. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Dazed, I hope you are ready to start working on yourself. If you are, and you want to start feeling better, and taking back control of your life and your emotions---no matter what your daughter does or does not do---a great place to start is by reading CoDependent No More. Keep going on Al-Anon---I go regularly---it will save your sanity. In between read Al-Anon literature plus other books---there are many, including When the Servant Becomes the Master and Addict in the Family---two recent ones I have read.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is a drug addict. And directly and frankly---her addiction has nothing to do with you. It is not about you. It is not aimed at you. You did nothing to cause it, make it worse or make it better. </p><p></p><p>She will do whatever she has to do to get drugs. That includes stealing from you. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Deep inside, there is still that person who you remember. But she has been taken over by addiction, and it is a primal need. It is as strong as the urge to breathe. She must have it, and she will do whatever she has to do to get it. Again, it isn't about you. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Addiction is characterized by denial. By lying, by grandiosity, by manipulation. Read about it. Learn about it---get informed. </p><p></p><p>The more you can grab ahold of yourself and begin to separate from your daughter and her actions, the better off you will be.</p><p></p><p>She will not stop because you want her to, you pray her to, you love her to. She will stop when and only when SHE decides to stop. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs for your heart. I know how badly it hurts. I have been there done that. And lived to tell about it. Keep coming back. We get it and we care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 630717, member: 17542"] Hi dazed and welcome. I am sorry. Dazed, I hope you are ready to start working on yourself. If you are, and you want to start feeling better, and taking back control of your life and your emotions---no matter what your daughter does or does not do---a great place to start is by reading CoDependent No More. Keep going on Al-Anon---I go regularly---it will save your sanity. In between read Al-Anon literature plus other books---there are many, including When the Servant Becomes the Master and Addict in the Family---two recent ones I have read. Your daughter is a drug addict. And directly and frankly---her addiction has nothing to do with you. It is not about you. It is not aimed at you. You did nothing to cause it, make it worse or make it better. She will do whatever she has to do to get drugs. That includes stealing from you. Deep inside, there is still that person who you remember. But she has been taken over by addiction, and it is a primal need. It is as strong as the urge to breathe. She must have it, and she will do whatever she has to do to get it. Again, it isn't about you. Addiction is characterized by denial. By lying, by grandiosity, by manipulation. Read about it. Learn about it---get informed. The more you can grab ahold of yourself and begin to separate from your daughter and her actions, the better off you will be. She will not stop because you want her to, you pray her to, you love her to. She will stop when and only when SHE decides to stop. Warm hugs for your heart. I know how badly it hurts. I have been there done that. And lived to tell about it. Keep coming back. We get it and we care. [/QUOTE]
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