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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 712878" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Your 29 year old son sounds like my 39 year old son, although son never tells me his problems are my fault. He does complain and can get abusive if i let him. He also used to make suicide threats.</p><p></p><p>I decided i deserve to be treated well. I have three other adult children and none of them abuse me...ever...and they have nothing to do with this son and dont think I should either. I do by phone, but if he says anything abusive, i now disconnect the call instantly and put in place three days for him yo cool off. I will not answer the phone or texts for three days if he abuses me. </p><p></p><p>He has learned to mostly not abuse me. He knows I mean business.</p><p></p><p>29 can become 39. There is no excuse for a loving mother to listen to abuse from her own son and I refuse. I wont allow that tupe of disrespect just because he does poorly under stress. There is no excuse for abuse. None. Not to me.</p><p></p><p>I also called 911 each time he threatened suicide. He stopped and has yet to ever make even a bogus suicide attempt.</p><p></p><p>We need yo stop seeing our adult sons as cute little boys. They are men and need to act like men. If a husband treated you like your son, would you tolerate it? This is domestic abuse. Spouse or son, it is still abuse.It is up to you if you feel you deserve it, but I cant see that we help grown adult children by allowing them to treat us like their verbal slaves. I dont care if he is upset. He can get professional help. If not, that is on our son's shoulders, i think my son is partly a narcissist. Both sons are way old enough to get help. We are not psychiatrists. There is nothing we can do to hrlp them. They have to do it. We can only help one person on earth....ourselves. Nobody else.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow...this is my way of dealing with it.</p><p></p><p>Blessings !!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 712878, member: 1550"] Your 29 year old son sounds like my 39 year old son, although son never tells me his problems are my fault. He does complain and can get abusive if i let him. He also used to make suicide threats. I decided i deserve to be treated well. I have three other adult children and none of them abuse me...ever...and they have nothing to do with this son and dont think I should either. I do by phone, but if he says anything abusive, i now disconnect the call instantly and put in place three days for him yo cool off. I will not answer the phone or texts for three days if he abuses me. He has learned to mostly not abuse me. He knows I mean business. 29 can become 39. There is no excuse for a loving mother to listen to abuse from her own son and I refuse. I wont allow that tupe of disrespect just because he does poorly under stress. There is no excuse for abuse. None. Not to me. I also called 911 each time he threatened suicide. He stopped and has yet to ever make even a bogus suicide attempt. We need yo stop seeing our adult sons as cute little boys. They are men and need to act like men. If a husband treated you like your son, would you tolerate it? This is domestic abuse. Spouse or son, it is still abuse.It is up to you if you feel you deserve it, but I cant see that we help grown adult children by allowing them to treat us like their verbal slaves. I dont care if he is upset. He can get professional help. If not, that is on our son's shoulders, i think my son is partly a narcissist. Both sons are way old enough to get help. We are not psychiatrists. There is nothing we can do to hrlp them. They have to do it. We can only help one person on earth....ourselves. Nobody else. Anyhow...this is my way of dealing with it. Blessings !! [/QUOTE]
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