OpenWindow
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I talked with difficult children counselor yesterday and she said she had to report what happened between difficult child and my daughter. She said it was the only way we could get difficult child further counseling. She told me I could call and report it if I preferred but I told her I couldn't because of husband and his reaction.
She reported it and within an hour someone from the state police called me and said they were coming over. I told husband and he immediately got mad and said we should have just kept it between us and handled it ourselves. He's mad at me and says I've blown it all out of proportion and that this could ruin difficult child's life.
The first investigator showed up about an hour after she called. She tried to talk to my daughter but she didn't say much. Then she talked to husband and I. She left and said someone else would be calling. At 9 p.m., the second investigator showed up and apologized for not calling first. husband wasn't home so I talked with her about our safety plan. She said it sounds like we're taking care of everything. I told her we were doing everything we could to protect our daughter but we are very nervous about them taking difficult child away and placing him somewhere that would do more harm than good. She told me my worry was legitimate but she didn't see that happening, and she said if it came to removing him (like if something happened again) we would have the option first of sending him to a family member.
She said it could take up to 30 days for the investigation to be complete. She also said the county sheriff's department could decide to press charges since he is 12, and so could our town's police department. They both can investigate on their own, which is separate from the DCFS investigation. husband is convinced that the police are going to show up "guns blazing" and take difficult child off to juvie.
So I know I did the right thing talking to difficult child's counselor, but it sure doesn't feel good at all.
She reported it and within an hour someone from the state police called me and said they were coming over. I told husband and he immediately got mad and said we should have just kept it between us and handled it ourselves. He's mad at me and says I've blown it all out of proportion and that this could ruin difficult child's life.
The first investigator showed up about an hour after she called. She tried to talk to my daughter but she didn't say much. Then she talked to husband and I. She left and said someone else would be calling. At 9 p.m., the second investigator showed up and apologized for not calling first. husband wasn't home so I talked with her about our safety plan. She said it sounds like we're taking care of everything. I told her we were doing everything we could to protect our daughter but we are very nervous about them taking difficult child away and placing him somewhere that would do more harm than good. She told me my worry was legitimate but she didn't see that happening, and she said if it came to removing him (like if something happened again) we would have the option first of sending him to a family member.
She said it could take up to 30 days for the investigation to be complete. She also said the county sheriff's department could decide to press charges since he is 12, and so could our town's police department. They both can investigate on their own, which is separate from the DCFS investigation. husband is convinced that the police are going to show up "guns blazing" and take difficult child off to juvie.
So I know I did the right thing talking to difficult child's counselor, but it sure doesn't feel good at all.
