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Dealing with difficult child's children, our grandchildren
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<blockquote data-quote="HMBgal" data-source="post: 626439" data-attributes="member: 13260"><p>I'm a very involved grandparent of all of my grandkids, three of whom live quite close, two of whom I am a large part of the support network for child care, paying for the extras, etc. But, when my daughter divorced their father four years ago, all was the same except for when he married his new wife two years ago (she has three kids, three different fathers, never married, none of whom are allowed to see their children--anyone else see a red flag here).</p><p></p><p>She now has complete control and this is fine with my ex son-in-law, with whom I used to be very close. It's heartbreaking. He just sent my daughter an email stating that he wishes she wasn't the mother of his children. Wow. So, here's this guy that I used to help him pay rent for he and my daughter, he loved that we were so close to the the kids, he used to tell me how grateful he was that I was willing and had the time and knowledge to help with his difficult child son, go to school meetings, etc. He was very happy to have us watch the kids, he called me "mom," was always sweet and respectful, and now he's saying that the kids can't spend the night with us anymore during my daughter's custodial time. We live two miles away from him, and the kids are begging to have a sleepover with us. How do I explain that to my sweet grandkids? Lie? Tell the truth? Ask the them talk to their father and step-mother? I walk on eggshells constantly with these two "adults" because of the power they have over me seeing my grandchildren. And now they are awaiting the birth of their child together, the sixth child now in this blended family. They hate my daughter so much that it scares me.</p><p></p><p>Sigh. Why do people have to act like this? I was in a county children's shelter at age 10, fostered into an abusive foster home at 11, on my own at 17, married at 18, divorced with three children by age 29, yet managed to raise my children with my ex quite successfully. Our children were never used as a weapon against grandparents or anyone else that wanted to love them, do for them, etc. I totally don't get it at all.</p><p></p><p>So, for all of the grandparents struggling to be the kind of grandparents we know children should have and how wonderful it is the have such love as a child, I feel you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HMBgal, post: 626439, member: 13260"] I'm a very involved grandparent of all of my grandkids, three of whom live quite close, two of whom I am a large part of the support network for child care, paying for the extras, etc. But, when my daughter divorced their father four years ago, all was the same except for when he married his new wife two years ago (she has three kids, three different fathers, never married, none of whom are allowed to see their children--anyone else see a red flag here). She now has complete control and this is fine with my ex son-in-law, with whom I used to be very close. It's heartbreaking. He just sent my daughter an email stating that he wishes she wasn't the mother of his children. Wow. So, here's this guy that I used to help him pay rent for he and my daughter, he loved that we were so close to the the kids, he used to tell me how grateful he was that I was willing and had the time and knowledge to help with his difficult child son, go to school meetings, etc. He was very happy to have us watch the kids, he called me "mom," was always sweet and respectful, and now he's saying that the kids can't spend the night with us anymore during my daughter's custodial time. We live two miles away from him, and the kids are begging to have a sleepover with us. How do I explain that to my sweet grandkids? Lie? Tell the truth? Ask the them talk to their father and step-mother? I walk on eggshells constantly with these two "adults" because of the power they have over me seeing my grandchildren. And now they are awaiting the birth of their child together, the sixth child now in this blended family. They hate my daughter so much that it scares me. Sigh. Why do people have to act like this? I was in a county children's shelter at age 10, fostered into an abusive foster home at 11, on my own at 17, married at 18, divorced with three children by age 29, yet managed to raise my children with my ex quite successfully. Our children were never used as a weapon against grandparents or anyone else that wanted to love them, do for them, etc. I totally don't get it at all. So, for all of the grandparents struggling to be the kind of grandparents we know children should have and how wonderful it is the have such love as a child, I feel you. [/QUOTE]
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