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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 626473" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>COM, sure. We can do that. We can foster. We can mentor at school. Or, and I'm leaning toward this, we can FINALLY just live our own lives and not feel tied to anybody needy. My two years of retirement, before I was hired by Goodwill, were two of my best years ever. I did everything I loved. I planned my week. I made my friends. I felt very needed because the volunteer work I did was so necessary so that even though I did not get paid in money, I felt useful. I also got a lot of perks, like first pick at the clothes, the kitchen items, etc. It was a blast. I had time for Bible Study and, although I follow no one religion, I feel warm and right in a room full of spiritual folks and am glad to learn more about their religious beliefs. I had to give most of that up now for my job. If I hadn't needed a money, small as it is, I would not have gone back to a regular job and may lose the job yet because there is no way in hello any job is going to keep me from going to Chicago for two weeks (and I'm not sure which two weeks) after Julie's precious baby girl is born. If they fire me, they fire me. I'll be broke, but we'll figure it out. We always do. There is a good side to everything and being quite poor has some amazingly great perks, as long as you are not a materialistic person. I have gone from a glass half empty to seeing the good in almost everything. There is something very good in my opinion about downscaling my life and becoming a minimalist, which I have already started. So I am not that concerned about Goodwill, although I do like the job.</p><p></p><p>I have also found a passion with dogs. I know not everyone is as into animals as I am, but my doggies are my kids and my friends and my therapists all rolled together and hubby and I do lots of dog things, such as one of our dog parks which is very clean and well cared for and has a park for only small dogs. We meet other dog people there too!</p><p></p><p>Kids? I don't know if any except K., my new granddaughter, will be much on the table. As for adopting a grown kid, so to speak, I'm up for that too if it happens, but I don't want to get close to another difficult child. Been there/done that/have the tee shirt/still have the tee-shirt/really would like to tear it to shreds!!!!</p><p></p><p>COM, I really thought your post was very thoughtful and helpful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 626473, member: 1550"] COM, sure. We can do that. We can foster. We can mentor at school. Or, and I'm leaning toward this, we can FINALLY just live our own lives and not feel tied to anybody needy. My two years of retirement, before I was hired by Goodwill, were two of my best years ever. I did everything I loved. I planned my week. I made my friends. I felt very needed because the volunteer work I did was so necessary so that even though I did not get paid in money, I felt useful. I also got a lot of perks, like first pick at the clothes, the kitchen items, etc. It was a blast. I had time for Bible Study and, although I follow no one religion, I feel warm and right in a room full of spiritual folks and am glad to learn more about their religious beliefs. I had to give most of that up now for my job. If I hadn't needed a money, small as it is, I would not have gone back to a regular job and may lose the job yet because there is no way in hello any job is going to keep me from going to Chicago for two weeks (and I'm not sure which two weeks) after Julie's precious baby girl is born. If they fire me, they fire me. I'll be broke, but we'll figure it out. We always do. There is a good side to everything and being quite poor has some amazingly great perks, as long as you are not a materialistic person. I have gone from a glass half empty to seeing the good in almost everything. There is something very good in my opinion about downscaling my life and becoming a minimalist, which I have already started. So I am not that concerned about Goodwill, although I do like the job. I have also found a passion with dogs. I know not everyone is as into animals as I am, but my doggies are my kids and my friends and my therapists all rolled together and hubby and I do lots of dog things, such as one of our dog parks which is very clean and well cared for and has a park for only small dogs. We meet other dog people there too! Kids? I don't know if any except K., my new granddaughter, will be much on the table. As for adopting a grown kid, so to speak, I'm up for that too if it happens, but I don't want to get close to another difficult child. Been there/done that/have the tee shirt/still have the tee-shirt/really would like to tear it to shreds!!!! COM, I really thought your post was very thoughtful and helpful. [/QUOTE]
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