HI, I am new here. I have a beautiful daughter who is 6 and was recently (FINALLY!) diagnosis with Sensory processing disorder, most specifically she is over responsive to sound and smell and tantrums very easily. Transitioning for her is very difficult and most mornings start with a screaming tantrum all the way to school. Often she tantrums on the way home also, then when its time for homework. Now obviously this is bad for her, but the strain of dealing with this very difficult behavior has also taken quite a toll on our marriage. Starting when she was about 2 my husband started "opting out" of parenting her (I cant deal with her, I shouldnt have to put up with this, I'm too busy for this...etc) so it has been me, all the way, figuring out how to calm her, how to get her to learn things she didn't want to learn, trying to figure out what was wrong with her (pediatrician felt she was normal until I finally wrote her behavior history down, starting at age 5 months) and now trying to get her homework completed. But now we are to the point where the stress is so overwhelming it just seems unfixable. And her school sends notes home almost every day "spend more time with her on this, she needs help", plus she is supposed to start Occupational Therapist (OT) weekly. I have no more time or energy, I just don't. My whole life is trying to help her, I never went back to work after realizing that she was not the kind of child who could deal well with day care, she seemed to need me near her so bad and not in a manipulative way, she just needed me. So I have tried working from home. I don't know if divorce or staying together in a stressful relationship is worse for our daughter, she is so emotionally sensitive and becomes distraught if you even look at her the wrong way. Part of me wants to try putting her on medications, just to save us all, but I feel so guilty for even thinking about it. Has anybody been through this? There is no handbook for this, I am so overwhelmed myself I can hardly get out of bed some mornings. Maybe I am the one who needs drugs? Can somebody please point me in a direction that might help?