Well, my 19-year-old is still here. The two-week deadline has come and gone. The Husband and I are no longer on the same page. He said ultimately he'd side with me, since I'm his wife, but he doesn't agree with me. He thinks her staying here right now is her only hope. If we kick her out he "Doesn't think it will fare well for her (prostitution? drugs? homelessness? wandering? safety?). So she's still here, and I'm not happy about it at all. The rules we (as a team) established, are slowly getting chipped away at by her, with no consequence. I'm having a very difficult time with this. I do not think it is good for our marriage, and I do not think it is good for our house. I try to see my husband's point of view. I try. But I think, right now, I have too much stacked up emotionally for the situation to be healthy for anyone. We've been through SO much with our daughter. The lying, stealing, violence, fights... it really took a toll on me emotionally. I don't feel like giving an inch right now because I'm still in a place of "open wound" from before. I think things would be different if our daughter would have been gone, made a commitment to sobriety, enrolled in school/work/made some sort of progress, and then asked to come home for X amount of time to enable her to accomplish ______. But right now it's basically, "I don't have anywhere else to stay because I've alienated/lied to/stole from everyone else," and we're stuck with her. Her behaviors are better than they were before, and she seems to be trying, but to me it's still the same old stuff. I haven't healed at all. I'm miserable. And resentful (which I'm not proud of). And I'm venting here.