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<blockquote data-quote="Alisonlg" data-source="post: 26531" data-attributes="member: 2894"><p>This is one of our biggest battles recently...I want to say it started about 2 months or so ago and it's getting worse and worse every week that passes. My 8 yr old REFUSES to go to school. (and quite frankly- thinking about it...I think this might be the schools fault! I think it picked up in frequency dramatically when they started sending him home from school...I bet in his head he figures if he's just going to misbehave and get sent home, why even bother going?)</p><p></p><p>I just don't know what to do. At first instance, I called the school Social Worker...because way back when he first started kindergarten, I remembered them saying in Orientation that "if your child won't come to school, we'll come to your house and get them!" So, I called, she came, he went to school. Next time, I called, she and the Youth Officer came, he went to school. Next time I called, she said, "I can't keep doing this," but she came anyway with the Youth Officer, and my son DID NOT go to school with them...though a couple hours later he eventually decided to go to school. Monday, he missed an entire day and we spent an entire day listening to his screaming and spent the entire day physically bringing him back up the stairs to his room and baracading him in his room...I'm still sore.</p><p></p><p>Today is Wednesday and I give up. In the past I've battled him...I've dragged him out of bed...I've physically undressed him...I've physically dressed him...I've forced him in the car...driven him to school...but, he's just too strong now and I'm just too tired...and I really don't think it would work anyway. If it were the begining of the school year...and I got him to the school...he would have gotten out of the car and gone to class...today...he wouldn't. He's different. He's worse.</p><p></p><p>So, today I give up. He wants to stay in bed, then so be it. He's being quiet and I don't have to physically restrain or move him...I don't have to listen to his repetitive chanting (which grates on my sanity more than anything else in the world!!!) then so be it. I offered him a reward if he would go to school (which worked to get him to school yesterday) and I told him that by not going to school he *IS* breaking the law (which he does not care) and that he will not earn any of his reward coupons for getting his work done at school...and I left and shut his door.</p><p></p><p>Do you have any suggestions on anything I could be doing differently? Should I just be letting him "win" this battle? Gosh, I can't stand ODD...I really can't. I truly envy parents who's kids just do what they're requested to do...and every <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> day he pulls this crap, I am reminded of why I can NEVER hold a FT day job and why I am so thankful that I own my own business! What a godsend!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Alisonlg, post: 26531, member: 2894"] This is one of our biggest battles recently...I want to say it started about 2 months or so ago and it's getting worse and worse every week that passes. My 8 yr old REFUSES to go to school. (and quite frankly- thinking about it...I think this might be the schools fault! I think it picked up in frequency dramatically when they started sending him home from school...I bet in his head he figures if he's just going to misbehave and get sent home, why even bother going?) I just don't know what to do. At first instance, I called the school Social Worker...because way back when he first started kindergarten, I remembered them saying in Orientation that "if your child won't come to school, we'll come to your house and get them!" So, I called, she came, he went to school. Next time, I called, she and the Youth Officer came, he went to school. Next time I called, she said, "I can't keep doing this," but she came anyway with the Youth Officer, and my son DID NOT go to school with them...though a couple hours later he eventually decided to go to school. Monday, he missed an entire day and we spent an entire day listening to his screaming and spent the entire day physically bringing him back up the stairs to his room and baracading him in his room...I'm still sore. Today is Wednesday and I give up. In the past I've battled him...I've dragged him out of bed...I've physically undressed him...I've physically dressed him...I've forced him in the car...driven him to school...but, he's just too strong now and I'm just too tired...and I really don't think it would work anyway. If it were the begining of the school year...and I got him to the school...he would have gotten out of the car and gone to class...today...he wouldn't. He's different. He's worse. So, today I give up. He wants to stay in bed, then so be it. He's being quiet and I don't have to physically restrain or move him...I don't have to listen to his repetitive chanting (which grates on my sanity more than anything else in the world!!!) then so be it. I offered him a reward if he would go to school (which worked to get him to school yesterday) and I told him that by not going to school he *IS* breaking the law (which he does not care) and that he will not earn any of his reward coupons for getting his work done at school...and I left and shut his door. Do you have any suggestions on anything I could be doing differently? Should I just be letting him "win" this battle? Gosh, I can't stand ODD...I really can't. I truly envy parents who's kids just do what they're requested to do...and every :censored: day he pulls this crap, I am reminded of why I can NEVER hold a FT day job and why I am so thankful that I own my own business! What a godsend! [/QUOTE]
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