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<blockquote data-quote="Alisonlg" data-source="post: 26559" data-attributes="member: 2894"><p>Kjs- Oh, I've been there. difficult child #1 has had me in tears since the begining! I remember picking him up from day care when he was 2.5 yrs old and him refusing to get his coat on and he was so full of adreniline that I couldn't catch him. Chased him for a good 1/2 hr, finally caught him, strapped him into the car seat wihtout a coat on and cried. Ah, those were the days.</p><p></p><p>Smallworld- he has a 504 Plan and we recently had a meeting last week to update that. He has some behavior mods in place at school and they just restarted him in group sessions with the Social Worker (whom he sees very frequently for his behavior issues in class) and we just recently involved the Youth Officer from the local PD because of the truancy. We just requested a PPT meeting to start Special Education testing because one of his biggest triggers is writting, so we want to be sure there are no Learning Disability (LD)'s there. We've never used the term IEP, so I'd have to say he doesn't have one at this time? They are talking of outplacement at a special school if he keeps getting sent home or refusing to attend school. And, I must say that at the 504 Meeting, they painted a pretty darn good picture and my husband and I wanted to say, "Where do we sign?!" LOL I don't know how serious they were and what the timeframe or conditions would be...they seem to say things, and then when it comes time to do them, it's "oh well, that takes time...yadda, yadda, yadda"</p><p></p><p>His evaluation is being done at a local Behavioral Center by a Social Worker...NO, I'm not happy about that and if it turns out she is the sole decision maker on this one, I am going to INSIST on some visits with their staff psychiatrist. Her initial impressions were the ODD and potentially some Depression (which I don't see). Quite frankly, I think we've got a LOT more going on than that.</p><p></p><p>Been trying to figure out the root of the school refusal...he won't tell anyone and I'm not even sure if he really knows. Like I said, today he purposely waited until school started so he could say the reason was because he'd be "late" which to him was worse than not going at all. If it were Friday, I would guess it were his Friday Folder writting project he was trying to avoid...but it's Wednesday...I don't recall him trying to avoid going to school on a Wednesday before. And, as I mentioned before, I honestly believe the dramatic increase in his refusal stems from when they started the experiment of sending him home from school when they couldn't control him at school. So, if he has any anxiety, it's probably over the fact that if he goes, he might get sent home. Purely a guess, but it's the only connection I can make and the only thing that makes sense to me. I firmly believe he should be in school no matter what, but when we got him dressed, forced him in the car, and drove him to school on Monday, the wouldn't take him...they made us take him back home. :frown: They let the ODD child be in control. And now he's controlling all of us. It's not fair that an 8 yr old get to control my life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Alisonlg, post: 26559, member: 2894"] Kjs- Oh, I've been there. difficult child #1 has had me in tears since the begining! I remember picking him up from day care when he was 2.5 yrs old and him refusing to get his coat on and he was so full of adreniline that I couldn't catch him. Chased him for a good 1/2 hr, finally caught him, strapped him into the car seat wihtout a coat on and cried. Ah, those were the days. Smallworld- he has a 504 Plan and we recently had a meeting last week to update that. He has some behavior mods in place at school and they just restarted him in group sessions with the Social Worker (whom he sees very frequently for his behavior issues in class) and we just recently involved the Youth Officer from the local PD because of the truancy. We just requested a PPT meeting to start Special Education testing because one of his biggest triggers is writting, so we want to be sure there are no Learning Disability (LD)'s there. We've never used the term IEP, so I'd have to say he doesn't have one at this time? They are talking of outplacement at a special school if he keeps getting sent home or refusing to attend school. And, I must say that at the 504 Meeting, they painted a pretty darn good picture and my husband and I wanted to say, "Where do we sign?!" LOL I don't know how serious they were and what the timeframe or conditions would be...they seem to say things, and then when it comes time to do them, it's "oh well, that takes time...yadda, yadda, yadda" His evaluation is being done at a local Behavioral Center by a Social Worker...NO, I'm not happy about that and if it turns out she is the sole decision maker on this one, I am going to INSIST on some visits with their staff psychiatrist. Her initial impressions were the ODD and potentially some Depression (which I don't see). Quite frankly, I think we've got a LOT more going on than that. Been trying to figure out the root of the school refusal...he won't tell anyone and I'm not even sure if he really knows. Like I said, today he purposely waited until school started so he could say the reason was because he'd be "late" which to him was worse than not going at all. If it were Friday, I would guess it were his Friday Folder writting project he was trying to avoid...but it's Wednesday...I don't recall him trying to avoid going to school on a Wednesday before. And, as I mentioned before, I honestly believe the dramatic increase in his refusal stems from when they started the experiment of sending him home from school when they couldn't control him at school. So, if he has any anxiety, it's probably over the fact that if he goes, he might get sent home. Purely a guess, but it's the only connection I can make and the only thing that makes sense to me. I firmly believe he should be in school no matter what, but when we got him dressed, forced him in the car, and drove him to school on Monday, the wouldn't take him...they made us take him back home. [img]:frown:[/img] They let the ODD child be in control. And now he's controlling all of us. It's not fair that an 8 yr old get to control my life. [/QUOTE]
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