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Decisions, decisions... Now what??
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 679213" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>You may feel that this response would give the message that you are giving up on him.</p><p></p><p>The opposite is true, by my way of thinking. </p><p></p><p>What you would say be withdrawing support is: I believe in you so much, I love you so much, I trust you so much (at the heart of me) that I will get myself out of the way. Because I trust that if you are responsible for yourself, you will learn and you will do the right thing. </p><p></p><p>This response by you does not put aside you choosing at some future point to help him. But it puts your son squarely responsible for his life, right now. Without anybody else to blame, to make responsible, even one little bit.</p><p></p><p>To me this would show tremendous respect to him as having the capacity and right to steer his own life. </p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 679213, member: 18958"] You may feel that this response would give the message that you are giving up on him. The opposite is true, by my way of thinking. What you would say be withdrawing support is: I believe in you so much, I love you so much, I trust you so much (at the heart of me) that I will get myself out of the way. Because I trust that if you are responsible for yourself, you will learn and you will do the right thing. This response by you does not put aside you choosing at some future point to help him. But it puts your son squarely responsible for his life, right now. Without anybody else to blame, to make responsible, even one little bit. To me this would show tremendous respect to him as having the capacity and right to steer his own life. COPA [/QUOTE]
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