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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 668237" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Did he have very chaotic first three years? Different caregivers? Left in care of unstable mother maybe? Boyfriends who may have abused him? Foster care placement?</p><p></p><p>I think he sounds like he could have a form of attachment disorder which occurs when infants and toddlers and young children do not have stability in their earliest years. If birthmother drank or did drugs during pregnancy that could be a factor too...that is lethal to the child's developing brain in her womb. This is similar to how many adopted kids who were in foster care behave if they have not had stable early years. It also sounds like he is jealous and wants daddy to himself, which is actually normal. Does he live mostly with you or mom? Do you have any o ther kids? If you have pets, I love animals, I hope you rehome them. If he is attachment disordered or drug affected or just disturbed, pets should not be subjected to cruelty. Cruelty to animals is not a good sign. I would see a child psychiatrist pronto and skip the therapists and pediatrician. They won't know how to handle that degree of dysfunctional behavior.</p><p></p><p>The peeing on the floor is another huge red flag. That can mean sexual abuse or just attachment disorder.</p><p></p><p>Does he like to play with fire?</p><p></p><p>There are three huge red flags for children who are heading towards extremely serious problems if not helped diligently. The t hree signs are cruelty to animals, inappropriate peeing and pooping, and fire play or fire fascination. Although he probably will NOT go this far in his behavior, almost all serial killers displayed all three of those behaviors a nd they are considered a big ASAP to get professional help, a nd lots of it early. He is still young. Please don't let him down.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart and the hard place a stepmother always has with a defiant step child, but I really don't think he can help it. I think he is just t hat damaged from early life. Crossing fingers that help works.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 668237, member: 1550"] Did he have very chaotic first three years? Different caregivers? Left in care of unstable mother maybe? Boyfriends who may have abused him? Foster care placement? I think he sounds like he could have a form of attachment disorder which occurs when infants and toddlers and young children do not have stability in their earliest years. If birthmother drank or did drugs during pregnancy that could be a factor too...that is lethal to the child's developing brain in her womb. This is similar to how many adopted kids who were in foster care behave if they have not had stable early years. It also sounds like he is jealous and wants daddy to himself, which is actually normal. Does he live mostly with you or mom? Do you have any o ther kids? If you have pets, I love animals, I hope you rehome them. If he is attachment disordered or drug affected or just disturbed, pets should not be subjected to cruelty. Cruelty to animals is not a good sign. I would see a child psychiatrist pronto and skip the therapists and pediatrician. They won't know how to handle that degree of dysfunctional behavior. The peeing on the floor is another huge red flag. That can mean sexual abuse or just attachment disorder. Does he like to play with fire? There are three huge red flags for children who are heading towards extremely serious problems if not helped diligently. The t hree signs are cruelty to animals, inappropriate peeing and pooping, and fire play or fire fascination. Although he probably will NOT go this far in his behavior, almost all serial killers displayed all three of those behaviors a nd they are considered a big ASAP to get professional help, a nd lots of it early. He is still young. Please don't let him down. Hugs for your hurting heart and the hard place a stepmother always has with a defiant step child, but I really don't think he can help it. I think he is just t hat damaged from early life. Crossing fingers that help works. [/QUOTE]
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