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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 70944" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>I found out when coming to this board that many ADHD medications have a side affect of anger. My middle difficult child (10 yrs) was angry all the time. None of my difficult children react to things being taken away and sometimes nothing seems to work, especialy with my youngest (7 yrs). I tried the strict route, I would swear they weren't going to "break me", but in the end, I realized what I was doing was making it harder on all of us. I recommend taking a breather for a bit. If you are normally the one do deal with discipline, why don't you let your spouse take over for a bit? In our house, it was me who was the disciplinarian, so my husband allowed me to be the marshmellow and him to lay the law down. We had a system in place that if they asked him for something, he'd say go ask Mommy. I would either say yes, or go ask Daddy. If they went back to him, he knew the answer was no. If they asked me first and I didn't want the answer to be yes, I said go ask Daddy. The reason this helped is because it allowed me to destress some. Then I could come up with new ways to tackle the rest of the behavior issues.</p><p></p><p>A new approach/fresh start always seems to help on our end. Sometimes, for you to be able to let go of the old approach, you need a break. Take some time, let your spouse take some time. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found the board! There are many parents on here with great input and some sure to make you laugh. Humor is needed when dealing with difficult kids!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 70944, member: 3837"] I found out when coming to this board that many ADHD medications have a side affect of anger. My middle difficult child (10 yrs) was angry all the time. None of my difficult children react to things being taken away and sometimes nothing seems to work, especialy with my youngest (7 yrs). I tried the strict route, I would swear they weren't going to "break me", but in the end, I realized what I was doing was making it harder on all of us. I recommend taking a breather for a bit. If you are normally the one do deal with discipline, why don't you let your spouse take over for a bit? In our house, it was me who was the disciplinarian, so my husband allowed me to be the marshmellow and him to lay the law down. We had a system in place that if they asked him for something, he'd say go ask Mommy. I would either say yes, or go ask Daddy. If they went back to him, he knew the answer was no. If they asked me first and I didn't want the answer to be yes, I said go ask Daddy. The reason this helped is because it allowed me to destress some. Then I could come up with new ways to tackle the rest of the behavior issues. A new approach/fresh start always seems to help on our end. Sometimes, for you to be able to let go of the old approach, you need a break. Take some time, let your spouse take some time. I'm glad you found the board! There are many parents on here with great input and some sure to make you laugh. Humor is needed when dealing with difficult kids! [/QUOTE]
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