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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 70946" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>eeeeeewwwww, a TEEENAAAGER!!! Add the adhd and you've really got your hands full!!! :smile:</p><p></p><p>First of all, remember: at the age of 13 they are "contraries" (usually until at least the age of 22 or 23!). Contraries do exactly what they say they won't, say yes and really mean no, and do everything backward (if it was easy (as most teens have the largest "lazy bone" in the world) they would walk, talk, eat and sleep backward).</p><p></p><p>As far as the girlfriend goes, I wouldn't sweat it. I think I'd go the ambivilent route. He complains that she's pushing him around, you respond "if that's what makes you happy..." let the phrase trail off and continue reading the paper. Keep doing that: "if that's what makes you happy..." watch the news. If you let him under your skin, he's going to wiggle in there and have a field day. MOST IMPORTANT: Let him always know that when he needs to talk to you (for real) he can. Safely. </p><p></p><p>Most kids like to complain "My Mom/Dad is sooooo mean...". Don't give him the satisfaction. </p><p></p><p>Also, let his Dr. (that prescribed the Concerta) that these behaviors have manifested if it seems sudden to you. It could be some wierd side effect that you might not be aware of.</p><p></p><p>Don't forget: read Ross Greene!</p><p></p><p>Talk soon (kids are driving me nuts!!!)</p><p></p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 70946, member: 3814"] eeeeeewwwww, a TEEENAAAGER!!! Add the adhd and you've really got your hands full!!! [img]:smile:[/img] First of all, remember: at the age of 13 they are "contraries" (usually until at least the age of 22 or 23!). Contraries do exactly what they say they won't, say yes and really mean no, and do everything backward (if it was easy (as most teens have the largest "lazy bone" in the world) they would walk, talk, eat and sleep backward). As far as the girlfriend goes, I wouldn't sweat it. I think I'd go the ambivilent route. He complains that she's pushing him around, you respond "if that's what makes you happy..." let the phrase trail off and continue reading the paper. Keep doing that: "if that's what makes you happy..." watch the news. If you let him under your skin, he's going to wiggle in there and have a field day. MOST IMPORTANT: Let him always know that when he needs to talk to you (for real) he can. Safely. Most kids like to complain "My Mom/Dad is sooooo mean...". Don't give him the satisfaction. Also, let his Dr. (that prescribed the Concerta) that these behaviors have manifested if it seems sudden to you. It could be some wierd side effect that you might not be aware of. Don't forget: read Ross Greene! Talk soon (kids are driving me nuts!!!) Beth [/QUOTE]
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