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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 42971" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Kjs, your description of difficult child needing reassurance - it's classic. If only they had worked out what the problem was sooner, all he needed was to have someone SHOW him how the sterile needles are packed and talk to him about it, it would have saved a lot of time.</p><p></p><p>There are adults who react the same way, they are NOT treated the same way our kids are. But when we Do treat our anxious kids like any other anxious person, we generally get as good a response as anybody could get.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child 3 had to have those bloods taken, he was cooperative despite his anxiety. But because the technician forced the issue and rushed it, she got no blood out of him because he went into shock and his blood vessels closed down. It would have saved her a lot of time and effort to treat him with respect.</p><p></p><p>I do think a lot of our kids' anxiety doesn't get treated with the respect it needs. Just because they are kids doesn't mean they should be ridden over roughshod. Nor does it mean that their feelings aren't real, or don't matter.</p><p></p><p>I like the way you have an arrangement with neighbour to cut his hair. You're doing the right thing, supporting him and letting him have these small positive experiences that get you what you want also - his hair cut!</p><p></p><p>We've now found a hairdresser that difficult child 3 can cope with. They are very good with him, they reassure him well and show him exactly what they're doing. Before that, I had some disasters with his hair - trying to trim a moving target! The time I had to buzz cut his hair was the worst. It looked awful too, but he cooperated because he had a head full of grass ticks and shaving his head was the only way I could find them all. He'd been patient while I picked the other 150 off his body... and then he came home from school a few days later with another hundred. The incentive then was powerful enough for him to put up with me grooming him. Usually, it's not and we have to find creative ways. I've even tried aromatherapy massage to calm him down. It works, but only a little.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 42971, member: 1991"] Kjs, your description of difficult child needing reassurance - it's classic. If only they had worked out what the problem was sooner, all he needed was to have someone SHOW him how the sterile needles are packed and talk to him about it, it would have saved a lot of time. There are adults who react the same way, they are NOT treated the same way our kids are. But when we Do treat our anxious kids like any other anxious person, we generally get as good a response as anybody could get. When difficult child 3 had to have those bloods taken, he was cooperative despite his anxiety. But because the technician forced the issue and rushed it, she got no blood out of him because he went into shock and his blood vessels closed down. It would have saved her a lot of time and effort to treat him with respect. I do think a lot of our kids' anxiety doesn't get treated with the respect it needs. Just because they are kids doesn't mean they should be ridden over roughshod. Nor does it mean that their feelings aren't real, or don't matter. I like the way you have an arrangement with neighbour to cut his hair. You're doing the right thing, supporting him and letting him have these small positive experiences that get you what you want also - his hair cut! We've now found a hairdresser that difficult child 3 can cope with. They are very good with him, they reassure him well and show him exactly what they're doing. Before that, I had some disasters with his hair - trying to trim a moving target! The time I had to buzz cut his hair was the worst. It looked awful too, but he cooperated because he had a head full of grass ticks and shaving his head was the only way I could find them all. He'd been patient while I picked the other 150 off his body... and then he came home from school a few days later with another hundred. The incentive then was powerful enough for him to put up with me grooming him. Usually, it's not and we have to find creative ways. I've even tried aromatherapy massage to calm him down. It works, but only a little. Marg [/QUOTE]
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