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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 655188" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Rina you are not a terrible mother. There was a time I wanted nothing to do with my daughter. I had to have some separation from her and all the awful things she was doing to heal myself before I could begin to want to even think about having any kind of relationship with her. The fact that you are learning these things now means he is communicating about them in treatment. Every parents I know who has gone through this says the same thing, that they learned so many things that their addict had done that made them sick. What is coming out in therapy now is raw, he will start facing it in the weeks/months to come and through his program he will learn it is not normal and that he needs help and you are not the bad guys in this.</p><p></p><p>I can't say whether he is going to accept this treatment or not, that is up to him. But he is where he needs to be at the moment and this is your time to take one day at a time and recharge your batteries. We went to our parent education weekends also, they were very emotionally draining but a lot of good came out of them. The elephant in the room was identified and there was no more covering it up. The longer he is away the more relaxed you will become and you will find yourself thinking about other things.</p><p></p><p>Let us know how the parent workshop goes. Don;t expect too much at this point, he is still angry you sent him there. It takes a while for that anger to dissipate and for them to take responsibility for their choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 655188, member: 59"] Rina you are not a terrible mother. There was a time I wanted nothing to do with my daughter. I had to have some separation from her and all the awful things she was doing to heal myself before I could begin to want to even think about having any kind of relationship with her. The fact that you are learning these things now means he is communicating about them in treatment. Every parents I know who has gone through this says the same thing, that they learned so many things that their addict had done that made them sick. What is coming out in therapy now is raw, he will start facing it in the weeks/months to come and through his program he will learn it is not normal and that he needs help and you are not the bad guys in this. I can't say whether he is going to accept this treatment or not, that is up to him. But he is where he needs to be at the moment and this is your time to take one day at a time and recharge your batteries. We went to our parent education weekends also, they were very emotionally draining but a lot of good came out of them. The elephant in the room was identified and there was no more covering it up. The longer he is away the more relaxed you will become and you will find yourself thinking about other things. Let us know how the parent workshop goes. Don;t expect too much at this point, he is still angry you sent him there. It takes a while for that anger to dissipate and for them to take responsibility for their choices. [/QUOTE]
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