pepperidge
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Those of you with some experience of depression perhaps you can give me some perspective. My husband (age 61) has always had a tendency towards depression, also high anxiety. He is a bit obsessive. And a very nice guy. It saddens me to see him depressed and sometimes I feel like I am just getting pulled down by my difficult children moods and husband's.
His depression seems to have been getting worse these past few years, more irritability, goes to bed early, less joy. Of course two difficult children entering teenage hood don't help either. Alot of exercise has helped in past. In the past couple of years docs put him on Effexor and then Wellbutrin, neither of which helped. Recently he seems to be suffering from more a certain flatness/lack of pleasure in anything rather than black hole type of depression, which he has had spells of.
doctor today gave him prescription for Zoloft so he will try that.
I am curious about whether people with a tendency toward depression tend to get worse as they age. Seems to me I read something about older people being depressed more.
Don't know whether we can do anything more on the difficult child front. They are right now not in crisis mode and are making some progress. Hoewever one is still pretty irritable and the other is pretty nasty when he doesn't get his way so sometimes home life is not a whole lot of fun. Kind of falls on me to try to be the upbeat one, but I'm more the kind that likes to be by myself when under stress. I'm trying to make more of an effort to reach out and connect emotionally but its hard logistically and also hard for me when all I want to do at the end of a difficult day is just to escape.
Anyway, don't really know what I am asking for, just hoping that someone can maybe give me some perspective on what my husband might be going through and also some perspective from those of you that live with depressives and how you cope.
Thanks...
His depression seems to have been getting worse these past few years, more irritability, goes to bed early, less joy. Of course two difficult children entering teenage hood don't help either. Alot of exercise has helped in past. In the past couple of years docs put him on Effexor and then Wellbutrin, neither of which helped. Recently he seems to be suffering from more a certain flatness/lack of pleasure in anything rather than black hole type of depression, which he has had spells of.
doctor today gave him prescription for Zoloft so he will try that.
I am curious about whether people with a tendency toward depression tend to get worse as they age. Seems to me I read something about older people being depressed more.
Don't know whether we can do anything more on the difficult child front. They are right now not in crisis mode and are making some progress. Hoewever one is still pretty irritable and the other is pretty nasty when he doesn't get his way so sometimes home life is not a whole lot of fun. Kind of falls on me to try to be the upbeat one, but I'm more the kind that likes to be by myself when under stress. I'm trying to make more of an effort to reach out and connect emotionally but its hard logistically and also hard for me when all I want to do at the end of a difficult day is just to escape.
Anyway, don't really know what I am asking for, just hoping that someone can maybe give me some perspective on what my husband might be going through and also some perspective from those of you that live with depressives and how you cope.
Thanks...