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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708321" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think her mental health should come first. Obviously she is very sweet and loving and able to work, but inside she is not happy. The hoarding is a symptom of a problem and needs to be addressed. Hoarding is usually caused by a loss, says this layperson...at any rate hoarding can go on and on. Dont be in denial about her needing help.</p><p></p><p>College may not be for her. Why is it the most important thing she do? Many college kids are out of work with loans and she doesnt seem to want it. Is lt for her or for you? I ask this gently, not to be critical. She had a job where she was progressing and it could have launched her to better things.</p><p></p><p>None of my kids went to four year school. One, who has a long story with us, none the less is briiiant and the CEO of a tech company, well over a millionaire. He skipped college. "I'll be four years ahead of my friends." He still is. Some of them work for him now.</p><p></p><p>Another son started college, also very smart, but quit with serious mental health issues. He is also shy, but he almost makes six figures now.</p><p></p><p>My youngest is ready to join the police academy after this next semester.</p><p></p><p>Another went two years to become a pastry chef, won awards and taught at her two year college too until she had her baby.</p><p></p><p>I have an autistic son who works two part time jobs and is doing great.</p><p></p><p>College can be a great asset if one chooses a good major and is motivated, but it isnt a good fit or necessary for all.</p><p></p><p>My most important wish for all my kids was always just for them to be happy. College was an option for them, but we encouraged them to take their own.paths. My second wish for them was for them to be productive, independent adults with families, if they liked, so that they could self sustain after we are gone. None of us can guide them forever. There will be a time they have to stand alone, ready or not ready.</p><p></p><p>Please encourage your daughter to see a psychologist. It can really help her figure herself out!! She sounds amazing with many talents she can use and some things that hold her back. She needs to get past them. Perhaps you need to learn to let her grow up her own way. That usually works the best!!<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> we can not count on our kids to live our dreams...its really not fair in my opinion.</p><p>"</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708321, member: 1550"] I think her mental health should come first. Obviously she is very sweet and loving and able to work, but inside she is not happy. The hoarding is a symptom of a problem and needs to be addressed. Hoarding is usually caused by a loss, says this layperson...at any rate hoarding can go on and on. Dont be in denial about her needing help. College may not be for her. Why is it the most important thing she do? Many college kids are out of work with loans and she doesnt seem to want it. Is lt for her or for you? I ask this gently, not to be critical. She had a job where she was progressing and it could have launched her to better things. None of my kids went to four year school. One, who has a long story with us, none the less is briiiant and the CEO of a tech company, well over a millionaire. He skipped college. "I'll be four years ahead of my friends." He still is. Some of them work for him now. Another son started college, also very smart, but quit with serious mental health issues. He is also shy, but he almost makes six figures now. My youngest is ready to join the police academy after this next semester. Another went two years to become a pastry chef, won awards and taught at her two year college too until she had her baby. I have an autistic son who works two part time jobs and is doing great. College can be a great asset if one chooses a good major and is motivated, but it isnt a good fit or necessary for all. My most important wish for all my kids was always just for them to be happy. College was an option for them, but we encouraged them to take their own.paths. My second wish for them was for them to be productive, independent adults with families, if they liked, so that they could self sustain after we are gone. None of us can guide them forever. There will be a time they have to stand alone, ready or not ready. Please encourage your daughter to see a psychologist. It can really help her figure herself out!! She sounds amazing with many talents she can use and some things that hold her back. She needs to get past them. Perhaps you need to learn to let her grow up her own way. That usually works the best!!:) we can not count on our kids to live our dreams...its really not fair in my opinion. " [/QUOTE]
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