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<blockquote data-quote="bluebell" data-source="post: 708871" data-attributes="member: 16761"><p>Our daughters sound the same, although mine is 17 and is just now looking for her first job. She's also had a brother who has caused disruption and chaos since she was younger so that is also a factor in her 'depression'. She has these fits 2 or 3 times a year where she insists on 'getting help'. I think she's heard us and watched us drag our son to 'get help' that she uses this for manipulation. It's usually when she's had a fight with her boyfriend, failed a driver test, or some other crisis of confidence. By the time the 'help'(therapy) is arranged, she is 'better' and was just having a 'moment'. I don't have any advice but I can commiserate the frustration with this type of behavior. I heard someone say the stronger the bond with the parents the harder it is to break. I think that's true. </p><p>About education - I have preached that to my kids all my life. I am very successful in my field and I owe it to my education. I attempted to homeschool my son when he got kicked out of his second high school. When that didn't work, I demanded he get a GED at 17. My son dropped out of community college last semester, and continues to try to manipulate me with talk of going back. He even writes papers for other students for money and receives almost perfect scores and shows these to me as a way to impress/taunt me - sorry I digress. My daughter has learning and social problems so has been homeschooled throughout high school. I live education every day. But I know my daughter is not college material, so I have encouraged other dreams. But ultimately they are hers and all I've told her is that if he chooses to go to college, it will be much much harder on her than other people and it will be her full time job. I guess my point is that all kids are different, and we have to adjust accordingly. It's tough sometimes!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bluebell, post: 708871, member: 16761"] Our daughters sound the same, although mine is 17 and is just now looking for her first job. She's also had a brother who has caused disruption and chaos since she was younger so that is also a factor in her 'depression'. She has these fits 2 or 3 times a year where she insists on 'getting help'. I think she's heard us and watched us drag our son to 'get help' that she uses this for manipulation. It's usually when she's had a fight with her boyfriend, failed a driver test, or some other crisis of confidence. By the time the 'help'(therapy) is arranged, she is 'better' and was just having a 'moment'. I don't have any advice but I can commiserate the frustration with this type of behavior. I heard someone say the stronger the bond with the parents the harder it is to break. I think that's true. About education - I have preached that to my kids all my life. I am very successful in my field and I owe it to my education. I attempted to homeschool my son when he got kicked out of his second high school. When that didn't work, I demanded he get a GED at 17. My son dropped out of community college last semester, and continues to try to manipulate me with talk of going back. He even writes papers for other students for money and receives almost perfect scores and shows these to me as a way to impress/taunt me - sorry I digress. My daughter has learning and social problems so has been homeschooled throughout high school. I live education every day. But I know my daughter is not college material, so I have encouraged other dreams. But ultimately they are hers and all I've told her is that if he chooses to go to college, it will be much much harder on her than other people and it will be her full time job. I guess my point is that all kids are different, and we have to adjust accordingly. It's tough sometimes! [/QUOTE]
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