JayPee, I was encouraged by your comments. It is a process--the detaching. Sometimes it's one step forwards and two backwards, but it has to be done. I like the expression of "lines of peace" too. You said, "The minute I slip back into feeling their feelings is when I need to climb back out of the rabbit hole (of worry) again." I thought that was very insightful. I do tend to "feel" my son's feelings, and pretty soon I'm enmeshed in worry again. Thanks for posting.