Hi, My son just turned 12 and was diagnosed ADHD in first grade. Even though not officially diagnosed, I believe he is ODD also. He is not definant all the time but when he is it is horrible. He has had an official IEP since second grade. BUT ever year he continues to fall behind in his standarized tests. In second grade he was in the 20-30 percentile. Now (in 6th grade) he is in the 3-9 percentile! He gets C's and a few B's in his classes. He has started acting up in class and ignoring the teachers. This is something we haven't seen since second and third grade. I could go on and on..but here is the bottom line. In the IEP meeting last week they told me how he was immature, did not stay on task, did not complete class work, did not turn in homework (even after finished), teased kids around him and at times ignores the teacher when speaking to him. Then they proceeded to tell me how he needed to take responsiblity for these things because he is in 6th grade and will never make it in High School unless he starts now. The problem is I know all of this. I am trying and trying my best at home to motivate him and hold him accountable. We set up special folders for homework, we check website everynight, I do hours of homework with him. He has had the same tutor since he has been in first grade. She tutors him four times a week and I pay for it. Bottom line is I feel the school is not helping and I do not know what my rights are nor what I should ask for. Please help....I am desperate to help my son but do not know what he needs or who can help me figure it out. Thank you.