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Despite my broken heart, we put my 16 year old son out of the house
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<blockquote data-quote="WannabeAgoodFather" data-source="post: 704680" data-attributes="member: 21165"><p>RN0441, I totally agree with your comment. It's been so long about talking nicely and suggesting things to the kid but the core problem is that kind of message will never get into the person's head. It is nothing but an annoying message where they do not think of doing anything wrong. I tried intervention but could not a get positive response from my wife's siblings. All the options are narrowing down, there is no more option but an aggressive, hard consequence to be put in place for the person to wake up and realize what he is doing in my humble opinion.</p><p></p><p>My therapist said when you kick him/her out, he will stay with friends for a week of two, then he will come back saying he will follow the rules. However this in and out situation will repeat for a while until the person really gets it and changes. My family's plan was stopped by mother who bought that her son doesn't need to go to therapy/program for substance abuse as he doesn't think he belongs to that group. That is why we are stuck... There is no enforcement... Phone. Yes we cut the phone off but he went out and got the newest iPhone on his own. Second, drug test. It was done the same day we got out from therapist, stopped by drugstore to get few. It was used on that day and came out positive for pot, benzo and something else but not heroin or cocaine. Mother threw out testing kits out and that was it. Third, rehab attendance. Mother stopped after one session and son said</p><p>it is worthless.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WannabeAgoodFather, post: 704680, member: 21165"] RN0441, I totally agree with your comment. It's been so long about talking nicely and suggesting things to the kid but the core problem is that kind of message will never get into the person's head. It is nothing but an annoying message where they do not think of doing anything wrong. I tried intervention but could not a get positive response from my wife's siblings. All the options are narrowing down, there is no more option but an aggressive, hard consequence to be put in place for the person to wake up and realize what he is doing in my humble opinion. My therapist said when you kick him/her out, he will stay with friends for a week of two, then he will come back saying he will follow the rules. However this in and out situation will repeat for a while until the person really gets it and changes. My family's plan was stopped by mother who bought that her son doesn't need to go to therapy/program for substance abuse as he doesn't think he belongs to that group. That is why we are stuck... There is no enforcement... Phone. Yes we cut the phone off but he went out and got the newest iPhone on his own. Second, drug test. It was done the same day we got out from therapist, stopped by drugstore to get few. It was used on that day and came out positive for pot, benzo and something else but not heroin or cocaine. Mother threw out testing kits out and that was it. Third, rehab attendance. Mother stopped after one session and son said it is worthless. [/QUOTE]
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