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<blockquote data-quote="Stress Bunny" data-source="post: 628964" data-attributes="member: 4855"><p>Nancy, thank you! I know there are many adoptive parents out there in similar situations. I truly would not believe the impact of heredity if I hadn't witnessed it myself. I am stunned, actually. For example, JT has some of the same mannerisms, even, as his birth family, though he only knew them before the age of 2. </p><p></p><p>I have strong intuitions about things, and my intuition tells me that JT will continue down this path of destruction. I sense that he is ruled by his neurology. He has zero desire to change because he does not perceive a problem, and honestly, choosing the lifestyle he has makes it easier on him to just live like a jerk. It's too much effort to be responsible and honorable as a person, so adopting the jerk personality makes it seem like he doesn't really even want to be responsible and honorable in the first place. It saves him face, because he simply won't put in the effort to manage himself in better ways.</p><p></p><p>I often dream about getting away from here; someplace tropical and warm with a sprawling beach. I would park myself in a comfy chair with a beach umbrella, drink, and a good book, and I would just relax listening to the waves. No worries or cares and no jerks either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stress Bunny, post: 628964, member: 4855"] Nancy, thank you! I know there are many adoptive parents out there in similar situations. I truly would not believe the impact of heredity if I hadn't witnessed it myself. I am stunned, actually. For example, JT has some of the same mannerisms, even, as his birth family, though he only knew them before the age of 2. I have strong intuitions about things, and my intuition tells me that JT will continue down this path of destruction. I sense that he is ruled by his neurology. He has zero desire to change because he does not perceive a problem, and honestly, choosing the lifestyle he has makes it easier on him to just live like a jerk. It's too much effort to be responsible and honorable as a person, so adopting the jerk personality makes it seem like he doesn't really even want to be responsible and honorable in the first place. It saves him face, because he simply won't put in the effort to manage himself in better ways. I often dream about getting away from here; someplace tropical and warm with a sprawling beach. I would park myself in a comfy chair with a beach umbrella, drink, and a good book, and I would just relax listening to the waves. No worries or cares and no jerks either. [/QUOTE]
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